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We are four months into recovery. I am blessed that H has done everything I have asked since May 19th and we are stronger, happier, more committed and smarter than ever. <P>What I need help with is this...H had a vasectomy today. We have two wonderful little girls and want no more children. This is something we both wanted. I was with him when he had it done and since have felt this sense of relief, this smugness in knowing he did this for me. I never expected the vas to coneect me back to the affair. <P>Any thoughts?<P>------------------<BR>Joan
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I had mine done for the wife also, so she didn't have to go through it. It's much more complicated for the female. Wish she felt someting about it.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html</A> <BR>
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Unfortunately, my H apparently had a vasectomy for me after our sixth child. We had discussed it hypothetically several times, and I thought that he and I both agreed it was what we should do. He made an appointment with the doctor without telling me he was going to, and came home and told me he had scheduled it for the next week. He admitted after he left that he has harbored resentment about it ever since.
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Joanie<BR>You should feel very happy that H did this for you!!!!<BR>I had my tubal on Wed. I kept hoping that H would volunteer to do it to save me more pain. He has chickened out twice in the last 5 years. Well he did offer on Sunday. A little too late to change my mind. <BR>I'm glad I did it. It would have been a wonderful thing for him to do for me though.<BR>The funny thing is that after it was done I told him I was glad it was me and not him. I really mean that. I guess I realized that I am way more accustomed to the pain after what I've been doing the last 8 months.<BR>Appreciate what he has done!!!<BR>You have a right to be happy about it.
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wass...I am happy. Part of me is giddy. I think now that I really feel we are moving on with our marriage and our lives.<P>Thanks all for your thoughts.<P>------------------<BR>Joan
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joanie<BR>I've been a little dopey this week. I'd like to hear more about how things are going. They sound good. I'd like to hear it. Been thinking of you!!!!!
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