Joquin, I, too, relate to your situation. My H became horribly abusive for about 4 months before moving in with much younger MOW. He, too, has had numerous A's, though I've only been willing to accept this in retrospect - at the time I accepted his lies.
We, too, own a business together. I can see now that my WH's many weak attempts at reconciliation had
everything to do with the fact that I had control of the business and the money after he left.
Because of his alcohol and drug abuse he was really incapable of participating. I bent over backwards encouraging him to get sober again, giving him opportunities to be involved, and overlooking his abusiveness (I told myself, "He doesn't really mean the horrible things he's saying, it's just the alcohol/drugs talking"), but he still accuses me of "stealing"
his business.
Anyway, I have one piece of advice. Whatever you do right now about your M, get legal advice about your business
NOW. I've been supporting my WH (and the MOW) for over 2.5 years. At first it was a paycheck for the job he
wasn't doing, because I wanted to try to keep him involved - I didn't think I was capable of running it alone, but I surprised myself <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> - but, later it was just to keep him away from me, while secretly still hoping he'd come around. It never happenned.
At first, my H told both his lawyer and me that he wanted
nothing, then later he wanted an amicable settlement, now he wants
everything and wants to drag the divorce out forever. Things change when the divorce gets
real, so protect yourself!
