So my 3 year old daughter comes home from a visit and tells me that "Daddy and Miss Jenny were taking a nap on the couch!" Well Miss Jenny is my daughters old preschool teacher! He has been out of the house for one month and I have to hear this from my daughter??!!!! I told him that if we met someone and the other wanted to know about it then we should tell each other. Well he told me that he NEVER wanted to know if I met someone else... and I told him that I DID want to know bc if OW would be around my daughter I wanted to know right away...

So I called him and asked him if him and Miss Jenny (as my DD calls her) were napping together on the couch... he stutters and fumbles his words and says "Umm.. Err.. we might of fell asleep"... WHATEVER!!! I beleive my daughter who is super smart that she saw her Daddy and her preschool teacher sleeping on the couch together.

I really dont care... this would be great news to me. My DD LOVES her... and she is so great with my daugher. Plus... I really do want him to be happy.

That is all I want... and I TOO have met someone. (he has never been around my DD yet though) I didnt tell my ex because I didnt want to hurt him more than I have by asking him for the divorce and to move out. I am not jumping into another relationship.. I just met a friend. Someone who is slowly showing me what a real man is like and how to treat a woman with respect and love. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

My ex of course blew up when I told him... I said "why do you even ask me then" and he gets all mad... He called me a Fu-king B-tch.. and then I told him that would be the last time I ever heard that again. Hung up... 30 sec later.. phone rings.. I told him I dont want to talk to him about my personal life bc I dont have to answer to him ever again. He wanted to call and say he was sorry for calling me bad names.. yet again... I dont even want to hear the words I am sorry... I just want him to leave me alone and let me live my life in peace.

Just venting...
Heather

<small>[ June 30, 2003, 08:14 PM: Message edited by: StayStrong ]</small>

I'm sorry Heather.

It sounds like his ego was too big for you. I'm sure he has no idea what he is missing.

I talked my wife into going to see a counselor tomorrow. If you think about it, pray for me to have wisdom to open up my heart and let open up her heart to know that I mean business this time. Also pray that the counselor has God's insight to know how to get us to talk about a possible reconciliation someday.

I'm the one that you said seemed just like you're situation, and you said that it was scary.

I'm truly sorry for how things turned out. I'm glad you found a friend. I'm sure that you deserve it. I promise to God never ever do anythig to my wife like what he has done to you lately, even if it doesn't work out for us.

Good luck.. I prayed for you guys, but maybe you guys not being together was what God thought would be best for both of you.

Gregg

I will pray for you. I beleive that you want things to work so bad. Just be calm with your wife. Try to put your heart into words. Dont be too forceful, just try to be as convincing as possible. I know just from what I have read from your posts that you want your marriage to work.

I wish you the best of luck. If it was meant to work out.. it will..
Or else, like in my situation, it wont work out... and it will be ok too...

Make sure that you let her know that you see your mistakes now and you hope that it is not too late to show her what she really deserves. You want to be the man she married and pictured her life with.
If you think you are controlling... you can change that. I know you can.

Good luck Gregg... Keep us updated...
~Heather
StayStrong

Thanks, Heather. You are so sweet. I hope this guy you met turns out to be a good friend that you can count on.

Thanks again for your support.

I'll let you know.

Gregg

Sorry, but it's best when divorcing not to date. Then the pot can't call the kettle black.

the whole grey area of dating during separation is just that. Murky and the color of poop.

I am glad it's over for me because I am still not ready for a guy yet. Think I would be doing the man a dis service b/c I am still healing.

When you play you pay either way.