Hi,I have been seperated 3.5 weeks now,I am a problem drinker,it has hurt my marriage to the point my wife has left.This has opened my eyes,I love my wife and never meant to hurt her,I was verbally abusive when I drank.I have been going to AA she says she is proud of me and hopes I can change,but say's I am not an alcoholic,"sometimes when you drink your a jerk"this is a problem drinker an alkie,but she doesn't get this.She said I am agood husband,but I want to be a better husband,I don't know why I say these things I would never say them sober.I know she needs time to see that I have changed,but right now she say's she is confused and needs to make a decision,give me a chance or move on with her life.She say's she love's me and misses me,but doesn't know what to do.I want to do all I can to save this marriage,I'd like to go to councilling but she is not sure,and this hurts.I said we should go anyway,you don't have to come back,it just might help to see if our marriage is worth saving.What do you think.Thanks Riley

I think any marriage that still has love, deserves a chance. It won't be easy...but I think you both have made some positive steps in you relationship.

Have you read all of the principles on this site...they will really help you both when working on you marriage.

Good luck...Pat