Marriage of 17 years ends on the 8th,
wife filed r/o on me 6 months ago, since then I have been labeled abusive, terrible dad, she has boyfriend, kids kept away from, thats what we are fighting over is the kids, I was stay at home parent while she worked, she filed r/o, and that changed all that, she is filing for sole custody with me getting them about 30% of the time, plus she comes out ahead financially, even though now I am unemployed because of this mess.
I have seen her 3 times since all this, won't even talk to me, she wants no contact with me at all,and is even going to continue r/o after year.
How can someone be so vicous to another, someone you once were in love with.
She told my attorney that she knew she wanted divorce after just 3 months of marriage, yet she hung in for 17 more years.
I guess what hurts is that I have been dependent on her for so long in making decisons on are life together, and now all she wants is to wreck what is left of mine.
I have lost everything, my kids (it seems), my job, my house, the life I knew for half my life.
Just gone like that.
And yet nothing has changed for her,
instead of me with kids, she has her parents.
Instead of me, she has boyfriend (for long time)
She still goes to work, comes home to her kids.
Anyway It is almost over with now
Or does it just seem that way

I'm so sorry rufus, but remember that your children need you no matter what, so be strong for them and their love for you will be your reward. As far as your WW is concerned, there is nothing you can do but let go of her and hopefully one day you will find a woman who truly loves you and appreciates the person that you are.