Hello everyone,

I have posted here just once but have really enjoyed reading everybody's advice. So please help me on this subject.
My WH is 28 and he left for a 40 year old woman that had just gotten out of a 5 year homosexual relationship with his boss from work. The affair started while I was pregnant and he left when our little girl was a few months old to live with the new woman. Anyways, he has lost 45 lbs. and has grown his hair really long and completely dresses different. Is this pretty normal when a man has an affair to change like that? He told me he has never felt passion like this for anybody like he does her. I have accepted the fact that he is not coming back and I have moved on the best that I can. I guess I just have so many questions about why they change so much and its like you never knew them. Any advice would be really nice.....thanks so much.

My WH is now my X and so that is a big change!! But now he is a total idiot!!! Isn't the great parent that he once was!!! He is not changing the type of dress but his new wife is, my kids are having a good laugh with it.

I see the man that he is now and I wonder what happened to the man that I loved and adored? I guess he's gone along with the marriage!!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Hi! I'm sorry that you're going through this too. My husband started changing the way he wore his hair, left more buttons on his shirt open, and started wearing chokers just beofre he left me. He's living in Canada with a woman he met in a chat room. She's 7 years older than he is, so I guess some of them do change to fit their new life. He's definitely not the man I once knew. I do hope that your husband realizes his mistake, and you can get back together if that's what you both want.