Hi, I need some help. I am married to a 30 yr old man I am 21. We met when I was 18 been together since. We have been married since Dec. 99 I got pregnant In Oct 99 Ever since I got pregnant my husband hasn't wanted to have sex with me. I thought it was because I was pregnant. So I didnt' think much of it. My Son is now 10 months old. I still have some of the weight on but have lost a good bit. I am pretty, nice, compliant everything he wanted when we first met. I haven't had sex in 3 months. And before that after I had my son he wasn't even excited about having sex with me. It is very occasional. So, I thought he is cheating on me. I made up a fake girl on the net sent him messages and tried to see if he was cheating on me. He sent her messages back, asked for her number to call her and sent naked pictures of himself to her. Well, the pictures I had sent to him of this "girl" were on my computer. He found them and sent her a message stating he knew it was me. Now, he says that he knew it ws me and that is why he did it. I am very confused . I dont know wether to believe him. I dont know what to do. Now all we do is argue and he works all the time.. He uses the excuse that we need the money PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME!!!

Sybelle, you caused your worst fear to come true. Tell your hubby you are sorry for the prank and ask that you two start fresh. And seek some counseling. You need to keep a level head for your precious baby.

I agree with psychlynn, you need to appologize and move forward. You need to sit down and have a very nice and easy conversation using "I" instead of "you" statements and tell him how you feel about his working late and your insecurities. Have you approached him on making love, it may not be that he is cheating, sometimes men have a problem after a woman has a child. He may possibly think that your body has changed and that it won't be the same, but it is the same. <BR>If the issue is the weight, all I can advise on that, it could be one of his top emotional needs. Do you dress and keep your appearance the way you did before you had the baby. I know as a mother that it is hard to get out of the comfy clothes and act a little more like a wife. <BR>I wish you luck.