My wife and I have been married for 13 years and have always had a decent sex life. Actually, she has wanted sex more often than I in the past but we were able to meet each other's need for the most part. 19 months ago, we had our first child. My wife still had her sexual desire after giving birth but we were unable to have sex for a few months because she was cut during childbirth. About 9 months after giving birth, my wife's sexually interest began to wane until now she has absolutely no sexual desire AT ALL. She says she doesn't feel overly stressed or anything--she just can't turned on by anybody. She says she is not interested in sex, that she doesn't care about sex and that she is not motivated to fix the problem. She knows it is not normal but says she could easily live a sexless life (I can't, and I find myself leaning toward adultery). She knows it is hurting me but can't even talk about it with me without blowing up. She is 36 and I am 41. Any advice? I have heard that women can lose sexual interest after pregancy but does it happen to the timeline I discussed above? I am truly desperate in this matter and ask for any and all help

Hubby, after a woman gives birth, she has become someone new...a mother. And there are times when her identity lies entirely within this frame of mind. <BR>Being that she had a baby in her mid thirties, isn't entirely the problem. However, if she works outside the home, she is now juggling 2 relationships at home and probably several others at work. If she is a SAHM, you need to begin to date her again. Romance her, make love to her outside the bed. It's also quite possible she feels unattractive and needs some encouragement. If you truly love your wife, your marriage is important enough to save. Please do NOT entertain the thought of adultery. Although your sexual needs may be met, you run the risk of losing your emotional health as well as your precious family. <BR>For now, do not discuss "sex" with your wife. Learn to love her in other ways. <BR>True love making begins when you wake in the morning and ends when you close your eyes at night. <BR>You both deserve to be loved so put some effort into this. Don't give up.<BR>