"Convenience Marriage"
I obtained my permanent residence status about 17 years ago through a convenience marriage. (It was a business transaction in which my family paid the guy, we never lived together, or anything of that nature) At that time I had a constant abdominal pain due to stress and fear of been deported.

A year ago I got married, my current husband is telling me that it is the most horrific act a girl could commit (even though he knew of this convenience marriage 4 months prior to getting married). He says it is a crime, that I have no conscious, and expects me to be remorseful and ashamed. I’m not proud of such act. But I’m not remorseful or ashamed. He says that the institution of marriage should never be use for any purpose other than to validate one's love for each other. He says that the act that I committed is as bad as prostitution and since we do not agree on this and other issues we are getting divorce. He is asking me to take a poll on this topic.

I'm not clear exactly what the poll question is. Could you elaborate? Do we think convenience marriages are bad? or Do we think you should only marry for love?

Also it's not clear who's idea the convenience marriage was - yours, your parents, or your first husband. That may play into the replies.

I'm not sure how many responses you'll get over the weekend. You may want to bump it up Monday morning.

I agree with him that the institution of marriage should not be used for this purpose.

It seems odd that he would have known about it before you married but now it is the cause for your divorce. What you did was wrong. Everyone does wrong things. It doesn't make you a terrible person. It makes you a person who did a terrible thing.