If she filed falsely, she will get kicked in the butt in the long run. God knows who committed what, and who did what. The people around you will see the truth. People told me the same, let your husband do this and that. They said we will see the truth in time. And they did. Part of the mental attitude, is we all wished that this was not happening, and that we put our head in the sand. I hated what my x-husband did to me, and the family, and kids, and unity. I hated, his comparison me to the other woman. Her body was fat, she was ugly, and she basically didn't have anything really to offer. But sex, she was more endowed in that area than I.
Work on yourself, and read self-help books, and get counseling. Have you read Mr. PHils books. Read his self-matters book.
I have been divorced for one month, after a long 1 year plus 2 month divorce. It was ugly, long, hurtful, painful, and I am glad it is over. But yes, I do cry, I do see my husband as a man of sin. I do not recognize this man that is so selfish and into oneself. I married a man who was a giver, and a man who loved me. I loved him, and now this man is so into himself.
Work on yourself, and who you want to be. I am working on myself, and counseling again starting next week. I am finding my likes and dislikes. I hate being so poor, that I had to ask x-husband for money to buy groceries. I have had no alimony or childsupport for 2 months. And I went to the government for help, that takes awhile too. But I am still working on myself, and selling things to try to keep myself afloat. But I found a big leak in my boat, and I started sinking. So I had to plead for help, and I hate this. I hate asking the one who wanted the divorce to ask him for help.
There is not much else to do. But downsize and start a new you. That is my plan, to sell this house, and to move into something quite a bit smaller. Maybe you should look into getting a condo, working, working out, maybe if you like animals, go to dog shows, or help out at the humane society. Or if you want to, help with senior citizens, if you can afford to give your time away for free. I wished that I was able to do the one thing that I wanted to do was volunteer at neonatal, but now I will have to work just to survive. I am on medical from injury husband did to my shoulder and I had to have surgery.
Look for happiness, and remember what you liked to do before you got married. Then try to remember what you two did for fun. Try to remember what you did as a couple and the fun you had. Your marriage is gone, not totally, but the paper says it is dead. It will take many years to get yourself back. But it will come with time. Good luck.
