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Joined: Jul 2003
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Hello everyone,
I need all of you guys to please help me understand. My ex husband left to be with a woman that is 12 years older, she had just gotten out of a 6 year homosexual relationship with his lady boss, and has been married 3 times, and does not have custody of her son. I am so confused by all of this. He started this affair with her while I was pregnant with our first child and left when our little girl was only 4 months old.
I have tried to make him explain why he done what he did. Of course his comment is, "I have never felt passion like this before in my life, never loved you like I should, you know all that good stuff they always say. Any suggestions or advice would be nice from any of you. I kept thinking he would wake up one day and want to be with us again but he has been gone for nearly a year now. I have moved on with my life but this seems so unreal. Please post any comments or advice you might have. Thank you for listening!
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Joined: Apr 2003
Posts: 1,398
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Wow......ya know what?? Sometimes there is no explanation. There is just no answer why people do certain things. You will probably drive yourself crazy trying to figure out why. My EX was always unhappy and I tried absolutely everything to satisfy her and make her happy. It didnt work and our marriage failed. After a long time of trying to figure out why my EX was never happy I came to a startling conclusion......THERE IS NO ANSWER. She is just an unhappy person period. I gave up on trying to figure out why.
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Joined: May 2003
Posts: 77
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You know, it sounds as if you still care for your spouse just as I do. God expects us to have that unconditional love for our spouses just as he does for us. I have turned all my focus toward God and given him everything. He will work in his time not ours. Trust him. Don't do as I did and try to fix things or take things back cause you are actually telling yourself you don't trust God. Learnto give forgiveness. This is so hard to learn but a must in order to get the weight off of you and cleanse you heart! I hope this will help. It's what I have learned. It's not perfect but none of us are. God bless!
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