I don't know about you guys, but doing the right thing is so hard sometimes.

Tonight I go out with a girlfriend and this guy hit on me heavily. He's 25! I'm 40! Big BIG difference. Heck, he could be my son! He was so sweet and so funny. So later in the night he asked me if I'd go to dinner with him next week...the bad thing is that I came so close to saying yes. My practical side kicked in and I said no. Then I told him, "I am soooo much older than you!" In which he replied, "And your point is?" Anyway, he asked me several times but some how didn't seem to push, and I hate to admit that I was so flattered by the attention and even more flattered that he was paying attention to me when my friend was 2 years younger with a drop dead gorgeous bod. When I went to the bathroom my friend says that he asked her to help him get me to go out with him. Oh gosh, I was so tempted, but then I have to focus...A fling is just not what I want!

Well, flattered and at the same time feeling a little sad...Why can't I find men my own age? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I miss that human touch so much.and it is so hard becyase it seemed like the slightest touch by him sent chills down my body.

As you can see, now I can't sleep! Maybe I got it all out of my system now. We shall see.

Night ya'll.

ANNA

P.S.

I just thought of something really stupid that I did...His friend would not believe my age, he asked to see my Drivers License...DUH!!!! My address was on that license! That has to be the most stupidist thing of my life (sides marrying my ex of course)!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

<small>[ July 16, 2003, 12:10 AM: Message edited by: Anna2000 ]</small>

You are too funny! I know EXACTLY what you are going through. I have had a few offers from guys much younger [including one of my son's friend....how sick is that] and I just laugh and say, "are you trying to give me a heart attack?" Last night when my daughter and I went to the store there was a cute KID helping us at the self check-out line and my daughter says, "mom, he likes you ~ you should go out with him" and I laughed and said "NO". The point is, the younger generation is not so hung up on the age thing and they don't even know what a serious relationship is. You know where you have been and what you need now in your life and although a night out might be fun, you are looking for more. Good luck!

hi Anna
well if he shows up//show him where you keep the lawn mower and rake..and tell him you were just going to do some yard work..don't waste the manpower..ROFL..how flattering, but you do want more then that..your better then that..but then maybe he is not after your body. although my daughter said that the guys younger ones that is ALL they want so she found someone older but then it is all they want too after marriage..hahah..

well you need to be careful where you go I guess, I think it was fun and made you feel good for the time it lasted, maybe exactly what you needed right now..grin..

what happend to ole 6 pack?? the guy with the 6 kids?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

waiting to hear thurs episode of the cheating spouse..take care and keep on keeping on:)

Last night, Jay Leno's jokes were about Demi Moore & Ashton Kucher and their age difference.

And we all need transition relationships, so why not enjoy some attention!

Livnlife, I'm glad I was able to make you laugh. I am soooo sleepy this morning. This night life thingy is not for me!

Sadeyes,

After I got the email about his father dying, I never heard from him again. Since then I took my ad off personals and closed my account so he can't write to me even if he decides to.

Newly, I don't think Ashton and Demi look good together. She looks like his mom.

I think I've had enough in between dates, I want the real deal now...I want it all...love, romance, hope for a future...etc.

Gotta run!

ANNA

Hey guys,
Just a thought that has had me chuckling lately...I am 40, my daughter is 20, if she dated someone 10 years older than her and I dated someone 10 years younger than me.... It could be the same person! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Now, can you see us on Jerry Springer fighting it out over the same guy???

How fun!!! Anna I want to know where you live, cause there are no guys where I live my age either and we are the same age.

Oh yeah remember the guys our age are looking for younger women. Well think of that for a minute, if the guys are looking for younger women, then the younger guys have to go one way or the other, younger, could be jail bait or older, their mothers!!! So maybe we aren't in that bad of a situation!!!

I'm glad your spirits got lifted and you had fun!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

A2000,

Here's a thought from a Guy a decade younger than you... Physical age is not always critical.

That "young Buck" you mentioned, He might be one of those few like myself who "matured emotionaly" early in life. This "Young Buck" may have actually been looking to spend time with a woman whose maturity is close to or on the same level as his??? Speaking from experience, My W is a hair older than myself, but her maturity is about 10 years behind. That might explain her EA's.

That "Young Buck" may not have been looking for an "easy score", you will not know what kind of fabric (He) is cut from until you pick at the seams a bit. Cliche, I know... but it fits. Next time this happens, you could suggest meeting the fellow on nuetral ground, say a coffee shop on an Saturday afternoon. If all the guy wants is an evening rendezvous (his true colors will show), he is probably just looking for some easy luvin. If that is the case, lose him.

Personaly, I see nothing wrong with relationships that have an age difference (As long as both are MATURE & LEGAL Adults).

Just a thought, and have some fun. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by daybreak:
<strong>Oh yeah remember the guys our age are looking for younger women...</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">OK, I confess that I'm a bit sensitive this right now, since I have developed a strong attraction to a woman fifteen years younger than I am. And I'm talking about marriage prospects here, not just a "fling".

The thing is, I was not looking for a younger woman. Actually, I was not looking for any woman at all - but if you had asked me the probability of me getting interested in a woman so much younger than myself, I would have told you that it was zero.

The experience of "falling in love" with a much younger woman has forced me to take a look at some of my assumptions - whether derived from personal experience or from societal conventions. And I have to agree with S.W. that physical age is not really all that important. Whether an age gap is significant depends on where the two of you are in your lives and where you want to go.

I don't think I'm speaking from a need to defend myself here, because at present this issue really is an academic one for me: the young woman I'm talking about has made it clear that she is not interested in anything more than friendship with me (although, alas, this has not doused my hopes, since her "rejection" appears to be due more to her current mindset than to anything about me personally: she is not interested in a dating relationship with anyone right now). I know that it does not make sense for me to sit around waiting and hoping for her to change her mind (although since she wants to have kids, something about her mindset is going to have to change eventually), so what I'm trying to do is keep both my eyes and my mind open to whatever possibilities might come along. My recent experience has taught me that those possibilities might include some which I might miss if I am not careful to continually examine my assumptions.

Lol, Anna that's too fun! You never know.... I keep getting asked out by a 23 year old in a club I belong to. I keep putting him off, but he's really a neat guy, and I enjoy being friends with him....lately I"m teaching him to sew, lol. (Hmm, spose he had ulterior motives in asking me to teach him?)

I pointed out that I was old enough to be his mom and he said....."but you're not". How do you argue with that logic?

You know, I had the same problem with one of the security guards where I work. I'm old enough to be his mother and he didn't get the hint until I talked up the bf - and I don't even have one locally. Now he's following my 51yo friend around.

He's a nice kid but that's all. Way too immature and just totally unappealing to me.

I felt the same way when I met my husband, yes, husband. He's 12 years younger than me. Know what?

He actually goes places, does things with me. My 'mature' x only wanted to sit at home like a bump on a log. And the SEX is great.

Think it over...as long as his mommy doesn't call him and tell him it's time to come home and put his jammies on, I say go for it. You might be surprised!

oh, more on my security guard story. My friend who became his object of affection after I made a big deal about bf and seriousness of the relationship - some of which I fabricated - tells me that another woman who works in our office had the same problem at the end of the work day. And before her, there was another woman he tracked down everyday when she got off.

I don't have much time to post but wanted to quickly send a thanks for posting to me to everyone. I was flattered and even though some think age doesn't matter, I totally disagree, a decade matters, perhaps not the first 5 or 10 years, but eventually, 99.9% of the time it'll matter...I'm a realist, we have enough to make marriages work with over half failing as it is without adding to the complications. I'll stick with men more closer to my own age.

Cinderella,

I'm glad the officer finally moved on down the road.

Take care,

ANNA