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HI MB, I haven't been here in a while but wanted to check in. All is well with my W and I.. God (and our Daughter) just blessed us with our second Grandson!! Praise GOD!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Our Marriage has grown stronger than either of us ever believed it could. We still have our bumps in the road, part of the stresses of life. Nothing winning Powerball wouldn't cure!! But we recover so much faster and they are so far between now. OM after 2 years of RE-MARRIAGE still lurks around and tries to put a wrench in it every once in a while. God has made our Marriage too strong for him to affect it anymore (although, I stay in my toes still and pray) Anyway, for those who feel there is no hope (as I've felt Soooo many times here) (Please see below for my story.. pretty grim..... no, impossible at times!!!) and have faith that God WILL work in your Marriage just not always in OUR time.. We are put in this for a reason... maybe to temper us... I don't know... he does!! Trust him, let go and put it in HIS hands. You can't fix this, HE CAN!! POST POST POST!! Let me know if I can help... You are ALL in my... our.. prayers.. GOD BLESS, Eternally Grateful to MB...... FRANK <small>[ July 18, 2003, 02:15 AM: Message edited by: PLEASE HELP ]</small>
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A story of Gods power with prayer. Good to see the light of a marrige put together.
I am divorced as of 1 month ago. Prayed, to God and prayed for my family. Interactions with husband are so difficult, and finding lies. The lies are the things that hurt. I need to give up the past, I am sensitive and finding the lies hurt. And he justifies himself with his lies, with any interactions or anything. My x-husband is quite selfish, and divorce was the outcome of much pain and anguish. And of course no committment to the marriage. So the outcome was divorce.
I am okay with the divorce. But it is diffiuclt to talk to him at all. He seems to find fault in everyone around him. Was addressed to him by, and he justifies that. He states I am uncooperative, his mother is uncooperative. The kids don't cooperate. We all are inadequate in one way or another. Also, he is a big time procrastinator. And I am dealing with big issues of surgery bills that he caused. He abused me and tore my rotator cuff, and the bills have been pending since Oct. of 2002. The Dr. has been calling and I have been calling the insurance, without a resolution. The insurance company seems to be dragging their feet. Now the bill is going to collections. This of course doesn't bother husband, he has many past due bills. But this is my credit, and my credit has always been important.
Lovebusters are flying back and forth. This is hard, when you see the person you gave your life and body to, at the altar wtih love, act in such unthougthful manners.
How do you give it up totally. I am doing much better than 3 months ago. But there is the knowledge of all the lies, the deceit that still causes great pain. He doesnt say he is sorry, he doesn't show remorse, just JUSTIFIES everything.
I love reading and hearing stories that a marriage can be saved. God does work miracles. God Bless the two of you and your new grandchild. A unite creates love of harmony.
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HI Faith4me, I like your name... your H sounds like a very insecure man... needing to find fault with those around him to make himself feel adequate. I might suggest (as hard as it may be to find the strength to get the words past your lips!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ) COMPLIMENTING HIM... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> I know I know... but you must be able to find SOMETHING good to say to him right? Maybe this would change HIS mind set... </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Interactions with husband are so difficult, and finding lies. The lies are the things that hurt. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes, it the lies that hurt the most.. I remember on "D" day feeling almost scared because if I couldn't trust HER... who could I trust!! </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">He abused me and tore my rotator cuff </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Abuse in a Marriage is a tough one to overcome... and selfishness is the NORM.... almost Satan's greatest tool in a Marriage attack. </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Lovebusters are flying back and forth. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You can only control YOUR LBs... I know it's hard NOT to retaliate but this is what makes most marriage repairs (? word) fail. Remember.. anger is just hurt turned inside out... Keep YOUR Christian ways.... I have to run.. GOOD LUCK and PRAYERS... FRANK
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Thanks for checking in and giving us an update, Frank.
It's always good to hear about the "success stories." Too many times, the successes leave here, and we're left wondering if it's even possible.........
God Bless you both (you 3!!!!)
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Made me cry, man!!!! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> But HAPPY TEARS!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> (((((Frank and W)))))
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HI Bev,
Good to hear from you... I always liked to hear the success stories, they kept me strong...and we have been one of the "lucky" ?? Marriages that survived this and believe me.... I thank God everyday for his help and for steering me here.
HI NB,
How are you doing?? Tears of joy here too.... often.... although it's hard to imagine now it that ever even happened! I know that's hard to beleive but God takes away the painful memories too. Well, at least makes it easier to push them away.
I've told you this a thousand times but...I would have never "gotten it" if it wasn't for you in the beginning. God Bless and Prayers FRANK
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Great news! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> The power of prayer goes a long long way. Keep on Plan A-ing... ...it is part of a healthy marriage. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Jim/NSR
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Frank - thanks. Your story is uplifting to those in need of encouragement. God does work in mysterous ways, and definitely in loving ways.
Keep your hands lifted up high, and God will be there for us.
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HEY JIM!!... How are you!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Good to hear from you... thanks for ALWAYS being there for US... THE POWER OF PRAYER....God will always answer... Sometimes YES.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Sometimes NO <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> and Sometimes not now.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> When it is YES... we prayed within his will When it's NO this would hurt us to have this prayer answered. and when it's NOT NOW..WE are the ones NOT ready for it to be answered... (my theory only... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ) AND..Yes,,, thanks for the reminder,,, plan A IS... the way to a good healthy Marriage... Faith4me I keep my hands raised and my head bowed in humble thanks and my eyes WIDE in amazement of his POWER and GLORY...THANKS....
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It's so good to hear a story like that. It's nice to hear about a re-marriage and on your way to recovery. I've finally have let it all go. I've put it in God's hands. I'm healing and find myself stonger and stronger as each day passes. I have my days where I fall back into a depression but those days are few. I've finally accepted the fact that my marriage will soon be over and life goes on. I will be ok with or with out my WH. I can imagine myself being happy again one day. And only time will heal the pain. I can imagine being happy with someone else and that shows that I am going on with my life. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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