For months I have been in despair over my W. I have done all I could since the affair was exposed 9 months ago, I have been rejected and rejected as her husband, she made it clear that she wanted freedom, space, indepedence and intimacy.

I finally reached a point this week where I am cool with seperation! I believe the kicker was I finally realized I could not change anyone but myself, I finally realized that there is nothing wrong with me, but that my wife sees me a certain way becasue of what I was unable to see in our realtionship, and what she was going through personally. I did all I could but she had reached the point where she was numb. Now, my course is to be her freind, to show our children we can co-exisit despite what we have gone through. I am excited about my future! I was trapped thinking my life was over without my W. But God has shown me let go and Let God! Just the fact that I am able to express freely that I am seperated is huge! It's also liberating! Well, I don't know what the future holds between me and my seperated wife, but I know one thing; I am able to live knowing I live differently from this day on.

Good For you!!! It's a nice kind of relief, knowing that we are ok and that our life will go on, just differently then what we had planned perhaps!!!

I'm glad you found peace!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />