it seems as though we are getting close to being divorce.Although my WW and I will no longer be together, I am extremely close to her family. Recently, her brother's family moved to another county and they had asked me if I would be interested in moving to the same location. I have seriously considered the idea of moving, more so for my kids and their cousins.

My question is: Is this a good idea??
My brother in law wants me to stay in the family.
What should I do???

Wow that is a hard one, you daid next county. Does that mean new job, new schools or just a new address?

Perhaps you need to write a list of pros and one of cons.

Where you and the BIL friends before the marriage?

Lots of questions I know!! Can you fill in the answers for us please!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

You've been through so much in the past six months. Divorce is a major upheaval in life and it takes time to recover. Moving to another country is another major upheaval and will require a lot of arrangements and readjustment for all of you. Are you ready for more just yet?

Is there a way to visit your brother in law for a few weeks or a month and see if you like the area and it's a place you want to live?

I have a pact with my sister in law and best friend. No matter what happens in our lives, we are always sisters of the heart. We are always family. She moved 3000 miles away from me about the time I became suddenly single. We've definitely stayed in each other's families. We phone frequently, write, email, and visit as often as we can. We take at least one joint family vacation a year. Staying in the family might not require expatriation so much as some effort and creative budgeting.

The list Daybreak suggested sounds like a helpful start to making a good decision about it. Hang in there, life does get better.

Thanks for the reply

Yes I have visited the area a couple of times and it really nice. From a cost of living stand point, it is a whole lot in expensive for me to buy a house, the schools are pretty new, Iwas told that they are B rated. I don't have too much conncerns about being away my friends, computers and the internet are a wonderful tool to stay in touch. Getting help when I need with the kids is my main resaon, as well as staying within the family circle. Work I can transfer, working at Walmart maynot be the most glamourous job in the world but it does have its benifits.

No, my brother in law and I were not friends before marriage, through out the years , I became a part of the family. I have a really food friend that is divorce and also have two kids that is struggling, she has no family here, her in laws does not give her too much help, her ex is a truck driver and is gone almost the whole year. We had talked about moving in together and helping each other out. I met her six months before my W, and we lived together for two years roomates. My kids and her kids practically grew up together. I would love to help het out, but also find a way to get into her life, like I should have done the first day we met. Unfortunately, I still love my WW, WW knows that her brother had asked me to move closer to them and she has no problem with it, she too thought it would be a good idea for the kids.

A new enviroment for us will be good as well as being away from WW. She does not make any effort to come see her own kids, there is always a reason from her. She once said that she had f**ked her life up. Does that mean when she met me and married me, or by having kids or by having the affair?

Six months later, I still have hot flashes of my whole life coming to an end, to this day as we go forward with our divorce, I try and figure out why my wife became so selfish. I am getting better now, each day it gets better. From a whole stand point I always believe what goes around comes around eventually.