Court date for final dv decree is 4th September, Going to trial as WS refuses to agree on settlement. This is better for me too as I have no more energy in me to negotiate with an alien.
Also tired of enriching pockets of lawyers who are smiling all the way to the bank.

Why is WS now all of a sudden concerned about me after 2yrs of avoiding me and NC'ing me. Why is OW suddenly concerned about being a co-parent with me. Her calls I ignore - I have nothing to discuss with her.

As for WS it is a little too late. Phoned me twice this week wanting to discuss things which is of no importance.

When he left he told our DD's that he did not love me anymore but cared about me. Now he has told our 5yo D, that he loves OW and also loves mum very much. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> She could not wait to tell me this. Now 5yo is confused because that was his mantra "I do not love your mum but I care about her"

Strange that all this is happening in the same week of D-day, 2years ago.

Speaking to WS about 11yo D' school work, I mentioned that I have also resumed my studies. He was dumbstruck. Silence on the other side..... What did he think my life stood still for 2 yrs.

Is this normal behaviour before final settlement of DV decree for WS's.

These were two hard years, emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. I was like a 1000 piece puzzle who had to be put together again piece by piece. Sometimes it took long just to fit one piece but the puzzle has slowly taken shape and I like who I am now.

I'm sure that he's trying to create a better 'impression' before going up to the judge.

What a crock. Just hang in there...it wll be over soon.

Sorry about your 2 year drama...I am just entering the area of D and it is gonna be a battle because my WW wants everything and there is no mention of the A , pregnancy, abortion, my loss of work, Hosp visits, meds, etc...So as much as I do not want to go to trial, it may head in that direction....My W would not want this all to come out, but it just may...My ???? to you, is did the A have any bearing in your situation?
My attny thinks it will have huge bearing due to all the mitigating circumstances...yet, many think it is irrelevant....Just curious...I hate the fact that my kids are caught up in this mess and my W is making it worse for them by fighting for custody when they do not want to be w/ her..It is all about $$$$ for her....sad...I appreciate any insight my friend...continue on your current path in strength..

GinnyF
I admire your strength and level-headedness in this difficult time. It's wonderful to hear that you like the person you are now, and I'm so impressed thta in the tough 2 yrs you found the courage and strength to piece together the complex puzzle of your self.
I don't see a problem really with what your WS is doing--why worry about him? You are doing a great job to take care of yourself and the future for you and your kids.

I wonder why the divorce process took 2 years? I am new to this experience, so I don't know anything at all about what's involved, how divorce begins and ends. Would you mind telling me what you did from filing for divorce till now? I assume you were the one to file? Did you plan ahead the lawyer expenses? How much did the divorce cost you? How were you able to support yourself and get youself through school in the two years of being in an emotional crisis?

I work full time, and still fear how I'll be able to support myself alone if I divorce. I worry that I'll be such an emotional wreck that I won't even be able to perform well at my job (I teach, so the spotlight is always on me and I have to keep a bright energetic face nomatter what is happening in my private life...adn I find that very difficult)

If you dont' mind sharing, how did you guys split the house expenses while you were separated in the 2 yrs?

Best wishes.

AMG & BW, I have read your replies will get back to you asap. I post from work and I am quite busy today.

Thanks