Well, well, a big argument came out last night with our oldest daughter going to be 25. Told me she is reading my threads here, and I asked if she is reading her fathers. She said no. She is not happy with my posts, it is radical honesty, and I guess radical honesty hurts her. That is something that her father said is most important in his life, and she honors her father. But if radical honesty comes out of me, taboo mom. I said, maybe you should read the history of your father from all the years here on marriage builders. The respect is not there from our daughter. This is something that has been in our marriage for the 20 years of SNL not treating me like a wife. And putting me down in front of the children. So, I will just be posting things of marriage builders implementing techniques.

I suspected she was viewing. Cause there were some things that I didn't mention being seen. But now the truth comes out. I can still express myself in another way. But for now it will be for marriage builders techniques, which is a great way to save a marriage and it is not a cult. Thanks for listening all.

Faith4me, I think you make an important point that we should all remember: this is a public forum. Anything we write here can be seen by anyone...spouses, ex's, children, parents, friends, coworkers, bosses, etc. Therefore we should always remember to only write things we are not afraid to make public knowledge. And while being honest, to also be respectful and kind.

Perhaps you could turn this into a good discussion with your daughter, as to how being able to post your feelings honestly here has helped you cope with your situation?

Annavon - I sort of was sorry to hear that she decided to ONLY read my posts. But I soon realized during the night, that it doesn't matter. If she is not happy with what I write, then she doesn't have to read the threads. And of course, if it bothers her a great deal, then don't read the threads. What I wrote was radical honesty, nothing fluffed, nothing that I would be not willing to say in public (but wouldn't for privacy act). I am not feared for my writings, what I wrote was from my heart, and was the honesty of my heart.

Also, the opportunity to talk with her, is not possible right now. She has a very high streak in her that shows anger and vindictiveness. So right now there is no talking, at least on her part. I talk to her, some. And she doesn't give me a response. But in the near future, I will express the desire to talk with people here, about x-husband, kids, and family and frineds. That is what this forum is for. To help with situations that seem to be out of focus.

She will just have to realize that she needs to close this part of the book. And she has to realize that I have the right to voice my opinion here, and whereever else I do go. There is no need for me to be on pins and needles for the fear of hurting her feelings. Many feelings have been hurt here, by her fathers affair.

So I posted the title, cause I felt spied on. But then I said, she is 24 years old. If this is the act she wants to do, and then use this against me, let her. The actions will show the maturity level of the reader. I will continue posting as I feel. This forum is very good, helps me out, and also, is there for anyone in the country, world to use.

So I am not spied on, don't feel it, and will continue stating things as I see it.

<small>[ July 30, 2003, 10:55 PM: Message edited by: Faith4me ]</small>

hey Faith come visit and chat live with me.at my site ok..it would be good to chat with you.
I miss talking with you in message but this will be good in the chat room some times there are alot of people sometimes there isn't anyone..so
it will give you a chance also to make some friends..ok..most are christians who come there so don't be afraid to come and talk with us..

those who don't know the Lord come to and have talked to many people who are hurting and have problems other then marriage ones..

even kids like your daughter..come there..
so please feel free to pop in to visit..
take care.. Lil Bit Of Heaven On Earth!
I am EarthsAngel on there..so no more sadeyes..lol
actually I was always EarthAngel..so long for now
hope to see you there..and if no one is in the room just come back again your bound to be there at the same time I am I am always popping up..

been working on my site here for 3 days..got it up in one..was amazing I shocked myself I could do it alone with Gods help.hahha..hugs..for you.