I am having a hard time dealing with being a single mother to a two year old as well as a horrible Ex.

For example: My Ex went on vacation and dropped the baby off on Thursday night which angered me to no end because he didn't let me know ahead of time. He gave me 1 hour notice. I told him he needed to pick up the baby on Monday night because his place gets in at 6 p.m. and he only lives 1/2 hour away. I called on Sunday night to confirm his flight info and he went ballistic b/c he was at a wedding (I thought the wedding was on Sat night). I told him that if he didn't want any calls to turn off his cellphone.

I called him this morning to confirm again and he said he would come at 8 p.m. but added "if you don't stop, you will sign your rights away to me". Now I'm afraid that he will have his Attorney write another letter saying I'm unstable and take the baby away from me. I'm not being unstable. He lied to me about the time he would be away. Five days without a father is way too much in my opinion. I cut my vacation short in November because I didn't want to be away from the baby for more than three days but he obviously doesn't feel the same.

Now I'm scared he will follow through and have his Attorney write letters saying I'm unstable and will try to take the baby away from me. The damage has been done, my mother says. Now what do I do? Call my Attorney? He ended up taking the baby back on Monday night but I don't know what he is going to do.

He registered for classes at "My Little Gym" before I could register. I'm trying to find a playgroup to take the baby but I work from home three days a week and in the office the other two when I don't have the baby. I can't put the baby in daycare until he is three according to my divorce paperwork because my EX is against daycare (I tried to fight it in Mediation but he wouldn't budge). Would this be in his favor if we were to go to court? I'm really scared that he will take custody away from me. We have joint custody right now and he doesn't pay CS because he doesn't work and I do.

I know I am asking alot but this is all new to me. Every day there seems to be something new that he is complaining about. Like when I dropped the baby off he complained that I was 15 minutes early when I had to get to work.

Please help me to deal with my Ex.

Thanks!

How does he live and not work? Are you paying HIM child support?

HE really sounds like a total JERK --- but that isn't going to help your case.

NO --- you NEVER can be FORCED to sign away your rights as a parent. The court can take them away if you truly are an unfit parent, but they won't make you sign them away.

You do need to talk to your attorney and find out exactly what rights you do have as far as daycare, and taking care of your child while he is in your care.

IF your ex is not working - more than likely -the courts will wonder how he is supporting himself and the baby - so it will look bad toward him.

Take care and keep taking care of your baby and loving him.

Jan

My Ex's mother is supporting him while he is in school. She bought him a house and a mercedes. I just purchased a villa with my own money. I would love to put him in Child Care but my Ex is dead against it. It is writtin into my Mediation Agreement that I cannot put him into Day Care until he is three which is a year away. If I go against the Agreement, I could be in contempt of court. I would call my Attorney but that costs money which I don't have right now. I work full time but I need the money for my son and to pay the bills. There isn't much extra for anything else.

Btw, my son's birthday is next Friday which is my Ex's weekend with him. There is nothing written in my document about birthdays. How do we handle this? Do we alternate every year?

Thanks!