appeal for military retirement isnt over, will be sometime this month. X bought a home with OW price range is over $100,000 but cant pay for his child support. X is behind $1700.00 on court ordered medicial and school. X job as a parole officer in mobile ended, not sure why. X now works as a sheriff officer making $9.00 hr. far less than his state job. Our son has refused to see or talk with dad. called X mom son wanted to talk with her, she said NO, she had nothing to say to her grandson. thought OW was our problem but now see X mom as the one who is putting things into X head. X told me I sat on my a** for 14 yrs. My answer back was I had a husband who loved me and told me to quit my job and navy reservers and be a wife and mother to our son. He would support the family. X called our home and left a message that he hopes I burn in hell, not sure what his problem is. X left me for MOW. He should be happy to start his new life over. Im glad he has a uniform on, now he will cheat on OW. X missed the women runningafter him. X told me MOW wasnt the only woman he was seeing, she was just the only one who wanted him. I have a new life and it feels great, my son loves me and I love him. I dont date, I feel my son comes first, he has problems dealing with dad walking out on him. Fears that dad will kill me, and take him away. X came to our son school in june but our son wasnt there that day. Im not sure why he was there, our son thought dad was trying to kidnap him. dad lives 350 miles away. X did ask the teacher about what our son has said about him, she told him that our son was mad at him and didnt like him. Our son loves the old dad he knew but has said he hates the person dad turned into. our son hates ow and wont accept her as his new stepmom. son was upset to learn that dad has a bumper sticker that reads"I miss my X wife but next time I'll aim better" Something for a sheriff officer to have on his personal car. If X wants to start his new life over with OW he needs to get the hate out of his life. I feel nothing for this man, almost 18 yrs of my life was wasted on someone I didnt really know. Our son has lost the dad he knew.I feel sorry for X he now has to be someone he is not. X will have to keep up the younger appearance he is 11yrs older than Ow, raising her 3 young boys. This is not the couch potato I knew. Im sure once they get M, X will go back to the person he was. X used to tell me he owned me? I thought he was joking, then he told me he owned our son because Al gave him joint custody. When X gets M to OW, then he will own her thats when their lives to start to change. For now I have peace in life, watching our son turm from a boy into a nice young man. I wouldnt give that up for anything or anyone.

m-17 yrs 9 months
c-14, 29, 8 yr, 2 months granddaughters
d-5-23-02
me-49, x-43

I am sorry that you are feeling this way at this time. I would look at having a restraining order against x, specially with his mentality. Showing up at school is not good!!! Does your son walk to and from school? I would find another way for him to get there.

I think that there is a way to garnish his share of the retirement for child support, you would have to contact DFAS to do that though.

Just a thought!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

x pays the state of Al for child support then Al. send me a check. Florida is in the process of making Al pay Florida after X pays them. I called to let them know that X changed jobs but they told me they already knew about his new work place. X is already in their system. When Florida takes over our child custody case I wont have to go back to AL courts for non-payments. Florida has tough child support laws.