It's Summer, it's Friday night......What does your ideal Friday night look like?

Krista

Oh! It is Friday? I think I will take a bike ride for about 2 hours and enjoy the setting sun, freshly hayed meadows & fresh air. I don't know if that is an ideal night, but it gets me out of the house. Ideally, I would like to bike to a nearby lake & enjoy a picnic around a fire with some friends.

I am planning on drinking about 10 beers, cooking some pork on the BBQ grill for dinner and then watch TV till I pass out.

hoamInow,
I assume you are new to the singles scene. Maybe just divorced. I know it's hard, but you will start to look for things to do and start to take action for yourself. When I ended up alone, Friday nite was the worst. It was soooo hard to come home to an empty house. I found that if I filled Friday nite, the rest of the weekend went ok. Remember this: It's hard to do things alone sometimes, but you must. It's the beginning of discovering who you really are.
In the beginning I would go to the mall and just wander. Talking to a sales clerk was better than no one. Then I expanded to walking. I then added going to the library, going to movies. Eventually I made several good friends and we did things together. I joined a softball team that played on Friday nites. You can't sit at home and think. It will depress you. You have to take action for yourself. Slowly the past will fade away, just like winter into spring. New friends will appear and new hobbies. The thing is not to give up.
Tell us about yourself and let us help. Sometimes I think good friends are as important as a good spouse.
Hang in there
Singleguy

DANG! 10 beers???!!!

1 beer for me Doniker and I'd be on my lips.

Jo

Ideal Friday night, huh? I don't know. Been a long time. Except for the ones spent with the diplomat or my children...

If there's no homework and everyone is in a good mood.

But I need to learn to get out. You'd think after 8 years I'd get out more. Too much to do at home. And for 3 years, I've been spending Friday nights on the computer with my friends at MB.

My ideal Friday night, don't think I know it if it bite me. I'll take a night any night when OS & I don't fight. He makes stupid mistakes & yet somehow it is all my fault or he takes it out on me and I'm tired of taking the beating for it.

sing,
your quote of Helen Keller is what I was trying to say. Why did it take me so many words?

anyone
how do you copy a quote from one post to your post so that you can elaborate on it or whatever.
I'm stumped. slow and easy. it's that left brain thing. don't go there.
singleguy

Friday night does not pose a problem for me usually. I am tired after working all week and look forward to just sitting, reading, watching TV or listening to music. Saturday night is the tough one for me. Saturday night was always date night or family night so trying to dig up something to do is hard especially after sometimes spending the entire day alone. I do not like the single life at all.

Single guy----I have done the gradual doing things alone bit.... now I am tired of doing things alone. Those are good suggestions you gave, though and glad it turned into some hobbies and friendships for you. I guess I am not there yet.

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TW

Ha - Singleguy, you called me "HoamInow." Definitely not a ho. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I was just remembering how much I loved weekend nights in college, and how I still look forward to them, even if I don't have spectacular plans. Tonight I took the kids out to dinner (yes, just McDonalds, but they had Spy Kids toys in the Happy Meals, so this was an anticipated event!) and then on a long bike ride on a river walk we have that winds along the river for almost 30 miles. We of course only made it about 1 mile, and that was stretching it for the grumpy 2 year old, but it was still enjoyable. I always try to do something fun with the kids on Friday nights - swimming, popcorn and a movie, walk or bike ride.

When I don't have the kids, I like to do a girls night out - usually once a month or so. Or a concert is always good, as is a bike ride along the river walk. Somehow I get much more of a workout by myself -imagine that! If I am dating someone, I love to make dinner together and talk and have a glass of wine and smooch. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Going out to a nice place is fun too, as is going up to the national park for a gorgeous mountain sunset.

I was just wondering what others do to celebrate the weekend! Have a good one!
Krista

Krista,
I apologize for that inaccuracy on my post. I need to learn to proofread. I missed the w somehow. Will you please FORGIVE ME? Then your proceeding to help me says you are an awesome gal. Thanks Krista.
TW,
Thanks for helping me with how to quote. Some of those things I just seem intimidated by. I need to start a thread and experiment.
Tw and Krista,
If there was anyway I could eliminate your lonliness, I would do it. If I could wave a magic wand and provide you a knight in shining armor, I would do it. I was trying to give you an alternative to being home alone. Life can be a real B sometimes. I don't know why. TW, You said you are not there yet. I fully understand that. I have been around so many divorced people I can almost tell you how long they have been divorced by there actions and what they say. It does go in stages. Let me quote a saying that some one told me when I first got divorced " If you don't find happiness from within yourself, you will never find it ". I hated that saying when I first heard it, but it is so true. Not that others aren't important and can't bring a little sunshine into your life, but the core has to be in us. It tells us a little about our dependency on others. I still urge you to get involved in things. They say if you want love, give it. If you want respect, give it. If you want friendship, give it.
I can be honest and say that weekend nites were not a bowl of cherries when the then w, now x was around either. When she left she said she hadn't been happy in years. At first I carried that guilt around believing it was my fault, " I did want to make her happy ". But finally I realized not everything was my fault. She was just as responsible for her happiness or misery as I was. In another thread on this ws someone quoted Howard Stern about marriage and he said " people stay married because they want to ". The same to some degree can be said for happiness or sadness. We can all be members of one or the other. Sometimes life brings sadness, just refuse to live there. I can guarantee someone or something will always try to steal your joy. Don't let that happen.
I urge you to focus on what you do have and to be thankful. Sometime I'll tell you my story and it will change you I promise.
One last thing. I too Krista love to smooch. It's fun and enjoyable. To me kissing is critical to a good marriage and it rebonds you with everyone. I could kiss a hundred times a day and right now even long for it. Someday soon I hope we all get the right mate.
Wish you two well
singleguy [for now]

I didn't realize until last night (Friday night) what my ideal Friday night was...now I know:

Come home and eat dinner with my kids. Salad with Caesar Ranch dressing and breadsticks is VERY good!!

Go to the mall and hang out with the kids.

Get my ear pierced (up on top).

Get a Cinnabon and a milk (OMG, those things are sin in a box, but TOTALLY worth it).

Watch some teenage boys play the "Dollar Bill on a Fishing Line" trick at the the mall--and every time someone bends down to pick it up they pull the fishing line. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> It was FUNNY, plus people laughed at themselves.

Go home and take the dogs for a long, evening walk.

End the night with some quiet time.

YAHOO!! What a great night!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

CJ

Well, I'm in a reading phase. So, last night I went to the bookstore. Different one from the one I usually to go. Can you believe this huge bookstore had almost no seating. Huge store. And almost nowhere to sit to peruse the books. Sort of an non-customer friendly atmosphere. But it was close to the house. And got me out so I wasn't moping.

cinderella,
but did you buy a book?
singleguy

Friday nights with my H before the A weren't all that great either. My H claimed he was never happy with me, always looking for someone else (and someone else, and someone else... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> )

Abraham Lincoln said, "Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be."

I've actually had two great Friday nights in a row. One of the hidden blessings of my H's abusive, dishonest, alcoholic behavior was that it lead me to Al-Anon. I've made great friends there and for the past two weekends a group of us has gone out on my party barge (the one I refused to put in the water last year because the year before, my H and the OW had lived on it for part of the summer and trashed it) for a weekly jazz concert on a nearby lake - good music, good food (pot luck), good conversation, and beautiful scenery.

I've spent quite a few Friday evenings myself here on MB. Thank God you're all here!