When does it all end??? I love and hate my WH. He's got some great quailities, but after 10yrs- 3 A's + infidelity that led to 2 pregnancies (terminated), how do we put that behind us? We have a 4yr old, a new business together, and live within 3 miles of each other.

We've been seperated for over a year after finding out that he was continuing an E/PA with the same woman that, while we were in counseling. 1st thing I did was attach myself to a male friend who had the same circumstances in his (ex marriage). I know this relationship will go nowhere, it just satisfies needs that I don't feel I can get/give with my WH.

WH wants our family back and has shown some changes, but continues with a new girlfriend and will only get rid of her if I come back and get rid of my friend. To me this is the same course as before...he held onto the other woman while we were in counseling to have someone to "fall back on" if we didn't work out.

I do love him, but not in the same marital sense...Thing is, we've talked through all of this and lean on each other for support. Is that the problem, we rely on each other too much, so we're not letting go? Can people be great friends after divorce? I feel too scorn to be married and feel that there have been too many chances for him, but I'm also too afraid to let go...
Anyone else troubled?