Hello all- I am needing a good starting place- and was hoping that someone could give me some ideas. <BR>My husband and I have just reconciled after a separation- both of us have been seeing separate counselors- and have had some break throughs as to what may have lead us to the point of separating. We can both see areas that need major improvement- and right now- we are working on those areas. My worries are that once the "drama" of the whole situation settles down- and we are back to a normal routine- how do we keep the effort going? We do think that a marriage "coach" is a great idea- and will look for someone in our area- but how do WE interview the doctor? What are the questions that we should ask to find out if they are a coach or a counselor? If anyone could advise me here- I would appreciate it a lot. I have missed my husband- and I love him tremendously- and I do not ever want to have to go through a separation again- so how do we keep these new feelings we have found alive?<BR>Thanks! Optimist'y

Wow! That's great news, congratulations! My only advice would be not to let the marriage slip back into the way it was before the separation. I speak from experience that it is very easy to do. (I am separated from my H for the second time) I would definitely go to counseling and try to do fun things and spend quality time together on a regular basis. Hope everything works out for you, I know there are so many (including myself) that wish they were in your shoes!<BR>June