Help, I am not sure what to do with my husband. We have lived together for 10 years, married for 5 and have two kids. The problem is 1. He is emotionally abusive, we work opposite hours so hardly ever see each other, when we do have time together he takes off to go fishing or hunting. We hardly speak to each other but when we do its an argument. When he is home with kids by himself, he spends the day sleeping and neglects them. The whole sex issue is a laugh, it is usually can I have sex with you tonight, if I say no its well I will do it myself next to you in bed, that’s not much fun and it really turns me off I feel like he is using me for a sex object. There is no intimacy in our lives. To tell you the truth I feel like a single mom because I never see him, and a sex object on the nights he feel like doing his thing. What should I do? Is it possible to ever get anything back. He seems content to never spend time with me and says it’s my fault because I am not interested in his activities. I am worried about the kids because he does neglect them, and is verbally abusive to them. At the age of 3 and 8 how can they be expected to take care of themselves while he sleeps? However, he is their father and I can never change that. I would like to find a way to make this all turn around, but have I let it get too far out of hand? How can I get him to open his eyes? Someone please let me know where to start and what to do. <P>Desperately seeking help<BR>

Hersheygirl,<BR>Hershey? I would suggest posting over in the Emotional Needs forum. There have been a lot of postings recently with your type of situation.A lot of advice being given over there about it. Have you read all the info about emotional needs,concepts,Q&A,and articles? There's a lot of good info there.I post mainly on EN forum.come and meet everyone and good luck!