My H can be cruel. He says awful things when we fight. I have read the LB section and I am trying so hard not to LB. He, on the other hand, LBs at random. He is very angry at me because I snooped thru his cell phone bills. He is the WS and also the BS. I am the BS and also the WS. (three months after I found out about his A's, I had an A myself 10 months ago). Now he is angry at me and says my snooping has ended our marriage. He wants a D and frankly, I don't even feel like fighting for him anymore. When do you know a D is inevitable?

Hi Pana,

Unfortunately I'm sorry to hear that. I can
say I understand the pain, non-trust, anger, and
tiredness of it all. I know it's so difficult
and you just want to give up!!!

I really don't blame you for snooping into cell phone bills, but do you think that is the only reason he is screaming divorce?

I know you both aren't trusting each other right
now, adultery kindof removes that. Do you think there is any way at all of trying to save the
marriage? Have you read all the concepts here
at MB? Maybe that would be the best thing to do first and then take some time in making a decision. Right now there is so much pain and
anger it's hard to make a decision anyway.
Give it time. Have you both truly asked for forgiveness from each other, and forgiven each other? Do you believe in God's love and forgiveness? Have you tried marriage counseling?

Sent with Love, Ladysheep