This story in today's New York Post, "Weird but True" department:

August 12, 2003 -- Get ready to pay the piper if you steal another man's wife in Mississippi.
That's the lesson Harry Stevens learned after a jury ordered him to fork over $175,000 to Albert Holcombe Jr. for breaking up his marriage.

Holcombe, of West Point, had sued Stevens for having an affair with his now-ex-wife, Andrea, and breaking his heart.

I heard a little about this on the radio last night.

I find it very interesting.

One of the big problems I see with it... is that you may win the Court case, but will you ever collect the money.

Nothing from nothing still equals nothing.

Anybody else have any additional info on this?

Stay Strong!

Wallace

I believe there are going to be more and more of these situations. I went to counseling today, and this was one of the subjects talked about.

For one, there are way too many people having affairs and committing adultery, and not feeling responsible for their actions. And also, like I have learned and am still finding out that the betrayed spouse is the one who really gets the raw end of the deal. We have to fight for everything, and seeing another lawyer last week, there is no end for the betrayed.

According to what was stated on the news, more and more judges are going to put the adulterous person responsible for their action, and paying for the future of the betrayed spouse. Too bad there are so many of us that are going to be left behind to not benefit from this new outcome. But it will take time for the judges to convene on the statistics of making it a law or judgment.

Interesting enough, I listen to a christian program, and the speaker had people calling in to respond to this new case of the adulterous paying for damages. It is about time, so those that committ affair after affair, will finally get their turn of getting burned. Like in my situation, my husband found a bimbo that committed for sure 2 adulterous affairs. She took our money, cause she whined about how she didn't have money, and didn't work, but had time to post on the internet and make friends with men. My husband makes great money, (we are divorced), and I am trying to make ends meet without an outside income. Makes sense to the wayward spouse. For one, he doesn't care, and has shown that he only wants his life and doesn't care what happens to me. Part of the wayward spouse syndrome.

But in talking to counseling, the counselor said it is about time. And the christian program said it is about time too. For affairs are happening all over, and divorce happens, and who is the one who gets burned, the betrayed spouse. Why shouldn't they pay for their actions, and lies and deceit. I wish there would be a law that those that had affairs, had to have a big RED 'A' tatooed on their forehead. And if they had multiple affiars, keep the big RED 'A'
s accumulating.

When there are so many pastors seeing affairs happening everyday. Isn't it about time some action is taking place?

You know what... I wouldn't care whether I ever received a dime if I could get an official judgement against my ex and her men. It isn't the money... it is the principle. Also, with all the facts right there in court, I wouldn't have to keep thinking about how I want to tell the world, but just don't have the heart to hurt my boys.

You have no idea how much damning evidence (pictures, email, genetics tests, recordings, phone records) I have and who all is involved in her affairs. She even had the vice principal of her school take essentially naked pictures of her to send to her internet lover. I mean... heh heh heh... the thought of filing is tempting. I am just that kind of guy. I make mistakes, but I live by principles. If the desire builds enough... I just might be heading back to court.

I am sick of her family and its screwed up ways of dealing with things and overlooking anything they or she does. I am sick of her portrayal of me and of herself. I am sick of her griping about being 'downtrodden' by this 'rich a**hole doctor' when she is the betrayer and left our marriage. And especially when I pay her over twice what I have to.

HMMMMMMmmmmmmm, this whole thing has possibilities. It would certainly shake up this midwestern city. And just WHAT would she do being brought up on 'broken heart charges' along with her internet men and local bar men and supervisors. (She used school property to take the pictures)

Heh heh heh... this has all sorts of possibilities.

<small>[ August 12, 2003, 04:37 PM: Message edited by: Formerly Confused ]</small>

This has been going on for a few years now. North Carolina has had Alienation of Affection laws on the books for a long time (since at least 1926)
http://www.rosen.com/ppf/ID/37/alien.asp/

How can I find out if Florida has this on it's books ??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

D.

Since I live in NC, I am very aware of this. Even in the last year, A of A has been used successfully. Unfortunately, the cases that have more at stake financially are the ones noted in the news. So I'm not sure how "the common people" would fare using this as a point of conflict.

However, I've been keeping meticulous records since D-Day...but just hope I won't have to use them!

WGTT - try looking at the laws in your state at Divorce Source or Divorce Net

You have to prove that the OP set out to destroy your marriage and break your heart. For example, if you had a video tape of your x having sex and the other person saying, "Besides our illicit love affair, what else can I do to make your spouse's heart break?" you might have a shot at winning such a thing.

I looked into this and the times it is awarded seem to be when the marriage was long lasting, there were kids, and the betrayed is/was dependent on their spouse's income because they stayed at home and forsook career/education to raise the children. Even with that you have to be able to prove that the lover actively and maliciously set out to destroy the marriage.

I am all for the action and statement itself, the money will never fix the broken heart, but the victory of seeing accountability would be a great example...especially for me w/ 3 children highly impacted....I am in the midst of my WW filing...no mention of the A or how we got to this point over the past year...My attny is responding and rolling out the carpet....It will all be a part of the public record...I look forward to getting this [censored] on the stand...Even if it never comes, just the shear thought of this occuring and him being served and my WW feeling the anxiety of the truth is worth the wait.....