First, his doctor should be notified and see what he thinks. There can be different effects on people depending on which side of the brain is affected by the stroke and the severity. Some are less social or have other emotional changes, some become speech impaired, lose mobility, etc.
My controller x-H didn't have a heart attack or stroke but got very nerved up over other health issues he would have, and I'd say his reaction was extreme compared to the average person with similar symptoms. It made him feel out of control.
H's behavior changed dramatically after traumatic events occurred over which he had no control... especially with deaths of loved ones. Controllers can't handle negative feelings...My x-H didn't know how to grieve...
After our baby died of a heart defect, H told me he wanted to divorce me (but we did not at the time)and ever since has been a workaholic. After his mother died, he would stop at friends' places, and they would call me and report unusual behaviors in him.
Your controller H has brushed up against serious health issues that could lead to death for people...my guess is, he felt out of control & shocked...and not knowing how to deal with those feelings, he's "acting out" like my x-H did.
Just as a man might go through a midlife crisis, these health incidents, may have given him the urge to seek more fulfillment out of what life he has left. I think you should see his behavior not as a reflection of you or the marriage being a problem, but this is "all about him"... he is in a mad search for meaning & pleasure....and not thinking clearly, changing anything and everything frantically....
Please take care of yourself....get professional support (pastor, counselor, etc), surround yourself by those who love you, etc.
<small>[ August 17, 2003, 07:35 PM: Message edited by: Renae ]</small>
