I was divorced before and now I am thinking about divorce. I am wondering if divorce is a solution to problems. I am very painful each day and trying to figure out what fault I have in the current marriage. I cannot find any. What should I do?

Pineapple,

The best advice that I can give you is to accept the fact that you are divorced. It cannot be changed.

Are you currently in a marriage facing divorce or why did these thoughts arise?

My personal opinion is that divorce should be avoided as much as possible. Obviously, there are some situations where one partner is so unwilling that there is no chance for the marriage to succeed.

Please post more, and I'm sure that you will receive more advice.

Hi, Hoping4best:

I was divorced with one kid and remarried 8 years ago. My husband will not accept my kid even though he promised that he would before we got married. One year into the marriage a cold war started when he would not talk to me for months becasue he was not happy because of the existence of my daughter. Now he hates me because of my daughter.

My daughter is staying with her father every summer and will go to college this September. My husband does not want her to come home for a visit. When she is home, he will disppear for hours without telling me where he went. I feel very insecure because he batrayed me once by sleeping with prostitutes. Now I am suspecting that he will go to whores... He told me that sleeping with prostitutes is a way to kill his pains. His pains are caused by my daughter...

I asked him to see a marraige conselor with me, but he refused. I really want to get rid of him, but I may still love him. I am in big trouble now. I wonder if divorce is a solution. Do we all have problems?