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After being tossed and turned and pushed and pulled by my now ex-husband, I've got to force myself to let go. I've got to step my foot down and not let him waltz in and out of my life like he has been. But...how?
How do you let go of your best friend? How do you stop the pain?
I've had so many tell me.....JUST DO IT. We all know it's easier said than done. I'm lost.
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You can always move somewhere your spouse can't find you...
You can surround yourself with people (friends, family, etc.) who know what's going on and won't let you be with your spouse no matter how much you want it...
You can make yourself so busy there's no time leftover for your spouse - what I did until she moved far far away.
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Joined: Mar 2002
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Letting go is hard to do but not impossible. Keep busy, stay with friends and family that will not allow you to go back to your ex and try to focus on something totally new. I started yoga for example. Don't forget, you have to distance yourself from him and the things that remind you of him. I've been in your shoes and know how devastating it can be to care for someone that doesn't care for you. You always want to believe that he does care for you and the smallest semi-nice thing he does gets you back to him. First you MUST accept he doesn't love you and the rest will come in time. Try this everytime he tries to get close: repeat silently to yourself over and over again: he doesn't love me, he doesn't love me...
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Joined: May 2000
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You find other things with which to fill your life. You work with a counselor. You give yourself time. (And sometimes you go beat up a pillow when you are desparate for release.) Journaling was good, too.
<small>[ August 23, 2003, 08:46 AM: Message edited by: cinderella ]</small>
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