My poor child. Starting 2 years ago his father and I split up and he (my son) has never forgiven his father. Then my son's friend gets killed by a train and I thought my son would never get over that. But he did.
Well this has been the week from hell for him. Starts off with this. My son (17) has been communcating with this young lady via chat for almost a year. They have become good friends or so he says. Well she gave my child her phone number so they could also talk via telephone. So like the sweet boy he was he called her! Well he did not just call her once! He called her like 50 times.
The next thing you know the phone company is calling me saying that my long distance phone service is WAY over its limit. I am like how way over and they say well - $700.00 over. I was like a mad woman. I get on line to view the bill and this girl lives in Canada. HELLO!!!!!! We are in the states and don't an international calling plan.
I asked (Probably yelled) my son what the heck he was thinking. That first of all he did not ask permission if he could call her. That to call someone over 50 time is a week and what in the world was in his head. He said he did not realize that it would cost that kind of money. I said it won't cost ME that kind of money because I am not going to pay for it. That he made the calls and that he was going to pay for every call. That he better ask for as many hours as he can get from work. I am living far away from my family and that my long distance service will be cancelled until its paid off meaning that I can not call long distance on the phone.
He felt really bad (which he should be) and said that he would get the money to me. That he would turn over every pay check he gets. So at least he knows he did wrong and hopefully will take care of this mess he created. And to top it off is my cell phone has an international calling plan that would of cost him $6.00 for a whole hour. ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
Then a week ago Friday night his girl friend here where we lived called him around midnight. Said that she just wanted to see what he was doing. My oldest boy kept teasing them about talking on the phone all the time.
Anyway they talked for awhile and she said she was feeling sick to her stomach and that she went to the doctor and they gave her medicine for her nausea. (She has MD and is sometimes in a wheelchair). My son thinks the world of this girl (She gave him his first kiss) and she is cute as a button.
Anyway - he told her to get some sleep and call him the next day. She told him she didn't want to hang up just wanted to talk with him and they did for a little bit more. He then said he was tired and that she was not feeling well and for her to get some sleep and call him later. They said their goodbyes and they hung up.
The next day my oldest son gets a call saying this girl was in the hospital and they were saying she was not going to make it. That her liver and kidneys were shutting down, she may not have any brain activity and that it was drug related. My son that talks with her was at work. I thought how in the world am I going to tell my son that his girl friend was in the hospital on life support and may not make it.
I go get him from work around 10 PM and take him to my friends house to help me tell him. I told my son that I had to talk with him and needed my friend there to be my support. That I loved him and I needed him to be strong. But of coarse I broke down and just hugged him. My friend stepped up to the plate and she broke the news to him.
He was so in shock, crying and upset. He wanted to know what the heck happened and wanted to know if it was from her MD. We told him that the doctors took a drug test on her to find out what happened. Its a long story but they suspect the Date Rape Drug.
My son was furious and wanted to find the person who did it and kill them. I told him we didn't know everything and that he needed to be strong from her.
Monday morning they check to see if she had any brain activity which she didn't so her family pulled the plug on her. She was 16. I thought my son would just loose it.
I asked him if I could take him to the viewing and funeral and he said no that he wanted to do this on his own. He was able to say good bye in his own way. He went with his and her friends to the funeral. He hadn't seen this girl for a few weeks and he was feeling sad about not seeing her before she passed away.
He has had a lot happen to him or to people around him these past 2 years. I sat him down the other night and told him I was proud of him. That he has become a fine young man and that he should know that GOD only gives us what we can handle and GOD must think he can handle a lot.
When ex called - I told him about the girl friend and what the doctors suspected about the drug - the first thing out of ex's mouth was "He didn't give it to her did he!". I was dumb founded! Our son just lost a friend due to drugs, was the last person to speak with her and you ask me a question like that. What an [censored]!
I told him he better not ever say anything like that to our son because I would not be responsible for what our son would do to him!
And he wonders why son feels the way he does about him!
