I AM MARRIED FOR ALMOST FOUR MISERABLE YEARS. IT HAS BEEN BAD FROM THE START AND GOTTEN LESS FULFILLING AS THE YEARS GO BY. I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING I CAN THINK OF TO FIX IT BUT I CAN'T GET MY HUSBAND TO PARTICPATE. HE HAS SAID HE THINKS THINGS WILL "WORK OUT IN TIME". EARLIER IN THE MARRIAGE HE WOULD AT LEAST LIE ABOUT WHAT HE IS WILLING TO DO BUT NOW I DON'T EVEN GET A DISCUSSION. WHEN I TELL HIM HOW UNHAPPY I AM HE USU <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> ALLY ANSWERS ME WITH SOME INSULT. THINGS HAVE BROKEN DOWN TO THE POINT THAT WE DON'T SLEEP TOGETHER AND HAVE VERY LIMITED CONVERSATION, MOSTLY BY NOTES. BESIDES THAT, I THINK HE IS HAVING AN AFFAIR. HERE'S THE THING. I MARRIED HIM WITHOUT WAITING FOR GOD TO LET ME KNOW IT WAS OK AND NOW I'M AFRAID TO MOVE AGAIN WITHOUT SENSING HIS APPROVAL. I'M MISERABLE AND LONELY. I WONDER IF I SHOULD I GET ACTIVE ABOUT FINDING OUT IF HE IS HAVING SEX OUTSIDE THE MARRIAGE?

dhurt---You have come to the right website. I suggest you post on the General Questions forum. You have a lot of reading to do and I guarantee while reading and posting that you will find out what God is telling you. The Harleys have great wisdom and I believe their principles work if both partners work at it. You have to listen to what your H is telling you, too. If there is a severe breakdown of communication and unfaithfulness, you cannot "fix" these things by yourself.

TW