H has decided after 26 yrs with me he loves someone else two OW I know of as of 8-1-03

Asked for divorce I said no asked to leave I said no.

Then we have been working on our marriage so I thought.For four weeks I have been a changed woman I have met every need he had.

We had more and better sex in these last four weeks then in four yrs .

1 day he says we are starting new
next day he wants to leave again.

So when he asked for a divorce for the fifth time
And I have been doing all this

What ever I don't care any more.
So H packed and left me yesterday.
Later came back for stuff I asked if he called the OW's with his good news he said no.

Last night was my first night alone in bed for 26 yrs. That sucks

Now this morning I have cryed for hrs on end it just won't stop.

All I want to do is crawl under a rock and die.

H as been gone 18 hrs now

I bet he doesn't even know it's been that long or cares.

I will NEVER sign divorce papers - NEVER

He says he just wants to be 19 again
(ya he wants to be free to screw everything in site)

Just shoot me and end this nightmare

No spare rock here! You've done nothing wrong!

I do have a tub full of bubbles, lit candles and a glass of wine for you. Along with some deep breaths. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

It is going to be a long weekend, do your grown children live near? Understanding close friends to see? It IS hard to get out when you feel like you've been ran over by a Mac truck!

Order Surviving An Affair or going to your local book store to get a copy. I believe reading this book could REALLY help you!

Do something for YOURSELF this weekend that you enjoy but wouldn't take the time to do if he was around!!!

I know how tough this must be on you!

(((((HUGS)))))

Gayle

<small>[ August 29, 2003, 10:51 AM: Message edited by: Ragamuffin ]</small>

Time to take care of yourself. You are in a crisis, dealing with the possible death of a marriage. You need help. Find a good counselor to help you through this. Also, find a separated/divorced support group. And depending on your level of depression, you might want to try anti-depressants. If you drop 10 lbs in 2 weeks, you are depressed.

Find some books on the subject, whether through the library or bookstore. Try the Fresh Start Separated/Divorced recovery workbook. Among many other good titles.

Good Luck and take care of yourself.

Dear Dogg1:

It is your husband who is at greatest risk. He will have his day of suffering and feel worse than you do right now. It will take probably more than a few empty encounters with the opposite sex. The he will realize that none of them could possibly match the history he built with you. You are, as you said, his woman of
26 years. That fact will never disappear.

Likely you are feeling right now that you weren`t attractive enough or "good enough" in bed to keep him. Well, that is nonsense and deep down you know it. But it is so often this misperception women have that make them suffer so much. Men are just genetically programmed to seek out variety in their sex life. This is no fault of any woman. No matter how "gorgeous" and "sexually talented" a woman is, a man will always be "physically attracted" to someone else. It doesn`t make men bad. It is just the way it is. The "only way" a man can rise above this weakeness is to build himself spiritually. Some men can, but most don`t. (I didn`t and have paid the painful price of divorce.) Your husband is facing a spiritual crisis and the only remedies you can apply are time, feigned indifference, and growing yourself spiritually. If he rises to meet you spiritually, then you will have a chance.

Standing in Finland

<small>[ September 05, 2003, 09:14 AM: Message edited by: StandingInFinland ]</small>

I'm in the same situation and feeling the just as bad. I honestly never thought I could feel this bad.

I'm in the same situation and feeling the just as bad. I honestly never thought I could feel this bad. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />