Few weeks ago, I had announced exH and OW split, however, they are back together again. Don't know if it will last, but I was pretty excited that he got what he deserved, but feeling down again, today. I just felt a lot of gratification for two weeks. Can't count your hens before they hatch, I guess.

Try looking for closure rather than justice and you'll just feel dissappointed rather than good next time they split. I know where you're coming from - believe me... but it's not a good thing for you to hang yourself on things that happen to others.

You're right, i felt bad for daughter because she was attached to OW, however, i think i was more satisfied with what happen. I know it was wrong of me to gloat. Thanks.. Pray for me. I need to get over all of this.

Nezi,
I will pray for you. I think it is amazing how God is working in your life- maybe this happened so you could learn to focus on you- after all, you are worthy <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Hey Nezi,

I think that there is a little place in all our minds [probably hearts as well] that we hope that the A will crash and burn and the X will come back running to us proclaiming that what they did was wrong and we were right, begging to be taken back.

Ok, fast forward to reality. Most times the A will die. [Stats show this] Most X's have too much pride to admit that their "soulmate" was a fantasy. They got caught up with all the attention they were getting, got a break from the hum drum everyday life of a normal M and life.

I have a little more time in this gig then you do, so, believe me it takes time. I hated to hear that early on myself. It is true, time heals all wounds.

I couldn't drive on the same street that the X presently lives on because of the pain. [I drive ambulance and we have a nursing home a few blocks away from her, always went an alternate route] It took me two years to take that street back. Now, I can pass their house and just think, man, she has to trim those bushes out front again, it's looking nasty...

Time is the key, I don't think of her [X] every waking minute as I used to years ago. Now I have a great woman [G] to share my life, her two small kids to try and raise right. One BIG DOG [Siberian Husky, always wanted one, now I have one and the jury is out on keeping her or killing her] four cats, yes 4, and life couldn't be better.

I am visited in my dreams once and again by my X and I only wish the best for her. I have no hard feelings as I once loved her. She broke the bond. I was an unwilling passenger in the ride. Only thing I didn't appreciate is that I wish she would have given me the opportunity of truth vs. deception, but that's another post.

Hang in there, it gets better. I am living proof as well as many other old farts here.

Nezi

This seems to be the pattern with affair partners. I think their relationships thrive on the breakup and makeup scenario.

I know a couple who started their relationship by a having an affair. Both dvorced their partners and they have been living together for 8yrs now, they also have a child.

For the past 8 yrs I have witnessed so many breakup and makeups with this couple in actual fact everybody just laughs now when they here the WS has moved again. We already know the pattern -gone for a month - back for 3 mnths.

When they are together they stick like glue. When they are apart they say the most disgusting things about each other. Both of them recently admitted to me after yet another split that they were addicted to each other.

Who do they blame - OW blames the exwife for their unhappiness. WAH blames OW for not understanding that there must be communication between him and exwife regarding the children.

Are they happy - no, no, no. Why don't they leave each other. They want to prove everybody wrong for dooming their relationship from the beginning.

They are two very insecure and unhappy people who are living in their own little fantasy world much to the amusement of everybody around them.