everyone's right- your kids keep full privlages as long as he's ad.
You have an option of going on COBRA with Tricare. They said it runs like tricare standard (as opposed to the tricare prime i think all military spouses have)-- the thing is, is that you have a $150-250 deductable for all dr. visits (depends if you see in or out of network)--the rest (incl prescriptions, thank God) run like tricare prime-- still need referals for specialists (unless you wanna pay yourself) and all that mumbo jumbo. Now for the crap news: it costs around $360 p/month and you are only eligable for it for one year from the date your divorce is final.
Are you already seperated? Is he paying child support or any bills for you? Just so you know, you are entitled to 1/2 of his BAH (housing allowance) for the entire period of seperation all the way up to the date of divorce. If he won't pay it, and he's not helping you any other way- go to his commander and have it auto-deducted. They have to do it.
Also, this is contraversial, and alot of people will probably condemn me for telling you this, but I think you should know each and every spec of dust you are entitled to under the law-- even if just to use it for leverage to get what you really want--so nobody throw stones, please. You are entitled to part of his retirement pay- EVEN IF YOU HAVE NOT BEEN MARRIED 10 YEARS. You just have to find the right lawyer. I did an internet search and found one who wrote a book on how to get ahold of it. Make SURE you get a lawyer who is familiar with military and retirement benifits for this. I was married to mine for 3.3 years, and I am entitled, and he says he can get it for me. (in my situation, i am not going for it--it wouldn't even be much, but I am using it for leverage to get this whole process going the way I want it to). While expensive, bloody legal wars aren't something I reccomend, I'd also like to point out that divorce is not nice and it's not the time to worry about your ex. If you don't think of you, be rest assured that he sure isn't. Basically, don't screw yourself by being too nice.
I'm dragging my d out (hopefully till I finish school in a year) solely for my tricare benefits and b/c my ex is paying my car insurance and car note (not sure why--but that's a whole 'nother thread....)Much as I'd like to move on (it's been 1 yr as of last month that we seperated with no contact (other than the papers he filed and my response to wait a year--to which I have yet to hear a return answer)...I have no money and I'm living with my parents, going to school and working what I can to pay down my Visa and loans.
sigh---but anyway--hope you found some of that helpful. I'm still in the fire, as I said. If you have any other questions, I can try to help ya. Good luck
