This is moving week. It was postponed due to closing on the new house & getting the floors refinished - which won't be done until I move.
X is supposed to move into the marital house, but is procrastinating and trying to get me to lower the price agreed upon in the PSA.
His lawyer drafted the PSA and changed all sorts of dates. Now, it says I must be out by September 15th. I can't get a mover, and I can't get into my house. So I asked him for an extension until the 19th - 4 days. My lawyer says its no problem - no reasonable person wouldn't allow that. WRONG!

He's demanded that I'm out by today which is impossible. So I need to contact my attorney and have him contact the X's attorney and play that game. And call the police to let them know what is going on in case X breaks into the house and changes the locks. They were involved early on and my lawyer was a childhood friend of one of our police, so I have an in.

Is this ridiculous? Any suggestions? The house closing was delayed by 2 weeks and I wouldn't have had these problems. But I think this is a reasonable request.
As it is, I'll have the movers place all my furniture into the garage, since Tuesday is the only day they are available.
I can't wait to get out of this house. Bad Karma.
Some people think leaving the marital home is hard, I hope to move away from the memories of the emotional abuse.
As I'm packing, I keep finding items which should have been signs of the problems. Like his fascination with guns months before he left, purchasing a gun case the size of a refrigerator (no interest in guns ever before), the DYFS report where he was listed as the alleged perpetrator when my 2YO has a accidental burn.

I have my vision for the future, and a new home in which to raise my self and my girls. I can't wait to get there.

Please send some prayers & good thoughts my way this week.
Thanks.

I am so sorry to hear about this........

It does not surprise me however because of the personality of your ex.

Unfortunately he is wasting everyone's time and money and will probably tell everyone that it is your fault.

The best advice that I can give is just expect that he will pull this type of stunt - you can't ever expect him to be reasonable, and then just act accordingly.

As a graduate of the been there done that school, I still hope that I will be able to deal normally with ex, but alas, my hopes are dashed every time.

It breaks my heart to hear that you are having to deal with this too.

Makes me definitely think that there is something wrong with those guys upstairs. Possibly some loose wiring.

May God continue to bless you and your family.

-K

GIIC,
Thank you for coming out of the woodwork to post to me. I've been wondering about you since I haven't seen your posts. I hope the children are doing well. I remember your posts when your daughter was born.

Mentally, I am doing so well, however, its hard not to get sucked into this stuff. I am so blessed to have met great friends from my divorce support group who have helped me through this stressful period of my life. I have a great vision for the future.

Newly - glad to hear you are moving into your new house. Will be good to hear from you as you decorate, and are the head of a household that is yours. Your husband will try to manipulate you, in many ways. I have the husband still trying to manipulate me, and I do get sucked in from time to time. But, I am moving on too.

The signs were there, sorry to hear about all the discovery that has happened. But your life will be okay, once you are settled, the girls are settled, and mom and girls are living in a comfy home just for you all.

Divorce group, was suggested to me today, through a new counseling group that I am in. Just started the group today. They have divorce group session, and we will look into the possibility of getting into a session this fall. Just my time frame is getting short because of school, and the homework. After all these years out of school, didn't realize how old the gears are turning. Glad to hear that the group session was very helplful for you. I was told the same, and seems that it works for the divorced person, and especially the one that was the victim, the betrayed.

Glad to hear that you have police friends to help out. You are not being unreasonsable to have to wait another 2 weeks. Just shows who is the controller and who won't let things go.

Good Luck, Newly, and bless you and your girls.

newly, I see your sig line says suspected narcissist. That makes me think his response to your request has nothing to do with whether it was reasonable or not. It doesn't sound like being reasonable or cooperative is his style. So, here it is the 15th and you're stuck temporarily. What's the worst thing he can do? Given your circumstances, perhaps a second question is what's the worst thing he can do legally? I hope he cools his stack for a day. Sheesh. And thanks for responding on the thread I started.