I posted in General Questions II...HELP! HELP! HELP! PLEASE RESPOND!

Maybe it would have been better directed to this location because of the responses I got.

Please read and respond to it either here or in that forum.

I need some major guidance.

PS....what is fog talk?

Ferbie, I read your posts and the replies you got on GQII. You were given some very good advice from some very seasoned and knowledgable MBers.

Moving on and letting go is a very hard thing to do. I know because I am in the same situation. But the truth is that the only way to move on is to concentrate on yourself and learn to be a better person, whether or not your ex decides to want to try again.

In my opinion you have only been enabling him since your divorce by allowing him to manipulate you and use you to still meet the needs his OW wasn't meeting. I think a good plan B would have been much more effective than you filing for divorce and then allowing him to come and go as he pleased anyway.

But that was then and you can't go back and change anything now. But you can learn from your mistakes and fix yourself. Find new hobbies, go places and meet new friends. Take care of you and do your best to let him go... for now anyway.

I really don't know what other advice I can offer you that you weren't given on your other thread. But still want to welcome you and tell you to please keep posting, it helps just to vent even if you don't get anything else out of it.

I could tell you weren't pleased with some of the replies you got, but you have to remember that none of really know each other and we can only base our advice on the little we do know. I think the important thing is to try and take any advice you get with an open mind, because sometimes it takes someone else to help us see things from different points of view.

The truth is none of us are trained counselors, we are all just people that were or still are hurting and trying to pass whatever wisdom and sympathy we can to others who are going through bad times.

Take what you can use and leave the rest.

I wish you peace and happiness.