I don't know what to do. My husband decided to leave the <BR>house. I asked him if he wants a divorce but he insists <BR>that he doesn't want that. I love him very much and <BR>I begged him not to leave. He said that he could not bear<BR>the pain with us arguing all the time. He has called me<BR>a couple of times but I resent him for leaving me and his<BR>daughter. Our problems started because he wanted to go out<BR>all the time alone with his friends. I think we are in <BR>different stages while I'm ready to settle down and be a <BR>family oriented person, he wants to go out to bars, clubs,<BR>etc. What hurts me the most is that since he moved he has<BR>not seen his daughter at all. He gives me money but does<BR>not want any responsibility. What do I do to bring him back?<BR>He just rented himself an apartment. Why does he say that <BR>he doesn't want a divorce?

Hi there zitla<BR> I<BR> don't usually post here, but things are slow tonight on my regular board (divorced and divorcing). I am new at this too. Have you read the stuff on Plan A and B? Look at the forums list...there is a site for people needing advice on this and also an article explaining them.<P>How long has it been since he left? My h left 4 weeks ago and has seen the kids twice a week since, but sporadically, not on regular days. This was a man who LOVED his kids, now he is fitting them into his hectic single man's life.<P>If you were arguing all the time, then Plan A stuff will help you. Also find all you can about Love Busters, and the Love Bank. These will give you pointers on what not to do. And if he won't talk to you you can make your own lists of things you know bother him.<P>Sorry no-one answered you sooner.<P>Nina<BR>