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I have been in Plan B for 2 months. WW is getting more bound to OM. Affair started during the separation. WW has told my D that she will divorce me soon as she finishes recovering from her hysterectomy, but she has not told me. She just returned to work yesterday.
Question#1: Is there any merrit to doing the 180 deg. divorce busting list AFTER a separation and this LATE in the game?
Question#2: Is Plan B any good after divorce?
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IMNSHO my answer is a resounding NO to both questions.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by T00MuchCoffeeMan:
<strong>IMNSHO my answer is a resounding NO to both questions.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Wow! TMCM That brings me down. It seems there is nothing left to do except give up because the battle..... the whole war is over! Is that what it means?
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I hate being the pessimist but it sounds like your WW's affair is an exit type affair. Beleive me Monty when I tell you how I wish I am dead wrong (I may yet be) about the chances of your W ending her affair and returning home to rebuild the marriage. Consult with an attorney so that you can protect yourself and your daughter in the eventually of a possible legal attack from your W.
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For me, that 180 divorce busting is more or less Plan B -- Lite. It means that I am here but not engaged. Since you are already in Plan B, then it wouldn't apply.
By the way, I had a hysterectomy -- in fact, 12 days before he broke my arm. One thing they tell you is that your emotions go up and down, and mine did. Your W may feel differently once her hormones are more normalized. I started having night sweats about 2 months before the hysterectomy and they continued for about 2 months after. It is possible that her physical problems could be contributing to her emotional upheaval.
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