To cut my story short ... I have known my wife for 8 years and married for a mere 18 months when she told me our marriage is no more. You see, I just don't understand it. Why marry me if she already had doubts from the beginning? I loved her with all my heart and yet she left me for another man. How stupid I was to think we could go on and have a family together. I even suggested that we should sell our house and move to a better area etc etc. Now I have no wife, no home just heartache and memory. I didn't even see it coming. I never felt so small in my life!!!

Unlucky,

I wish there was somthing to say to ease your pain. Just know your not alone, and time realy dose heal. Hugs, Kathy

Welcome to MB and sorry you're here! Every once in a while people come here for maintainance, but most of us come in crisis.

Read everything here. It will help. I also recommend Will Our Love Last? It's in direct opposition to Dr. Harley's principles, but I found it valuable.

Now, how W filed for divorce or has she just moved out? What are her reasons?

As for your question, I really don't know what if anything you did to help reap this end. Best ask your Wife. Then, post back to us. Include how old you two are, children if any, etc. It really helps. If you two are 48 instead of 28, you'll have a different perspective.

Check out the Newcomers thread on Emotional Needs, and if you need sympathy or advise quickly, that's the place to post. Anything with words pertaining to sex in the subject will get an instant read. Attractive Spouse issues are also hot.

But post here too. Most people here have been through the Harley system, too.

I am sorry for what has happened to you. keep in mind you are stronger than you think and nobody deserves what happened to you