that someone said they wanted to find a partner that they felt they didn't deserve. One that was so fabulous, they couldn't believe that person wanted to be with them. Does anyone else feel that way? Did I read that out of context? For some reason I was thinking about this today....Any thoughts?

You could be thinking of something I said, although the board's search function doesn't seem to go back past yesterday's overhaul, so I can't go back and check. I know I have said that I wouldn't consider marrying someone I didn't believe was "too good for me". I don't think so much in terms of what I "deserve" because I don't believe I deserve to marry anyone. This is the realm of love and grace, which are always gifts.

I want to marry a woman I would always look up to, without putting her on an artificial pedestal. I want a relationship in which my wife's character is such that I feel like I must work hard to live up to the standards she sets.

However, I don't want an unequal relationship. I want a relationship in which I feel that I too have something significant to offer. I want a synergistic relationship in which we each would bring out the best in each other through inspiration and encouragement.

This is all part of being complementary, in my opinion. Being complementary doesn't just mean depending on each other's strengths to balance each other's weaknesses. It means learning from each other's strengths.