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#759150 10/18/03 01:55 PM
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A good woman is proud of herself. She respects herself and others.

She is aware of who she is. She neither seeks definition from the person she is with, nor does she expect them to read her mind. She is quite capable of articulating her needs.

A good woman is hopeful. She is strong enough to make all her dreams come true. She knows love, therefore she gives love. She recognizes that her love has great value and must be reciprocated. If her love is taken for granted, it soon disappears.

A good woman has a dash of inspiration and a dabble of endurance. She knows that she will, at times, have to inspire others to reach the potential God gave them.

A good woman knows her past, understands her present and moves toward the future. A good woman knows God. She knows that with God the world is her playground, but without God she will just be played.

A good woman does not live in fear of the future because of her past. Instead, she understands that her life experiences are merely lessons, meant to bring her closer to self knowledge and unconditional self love.


Determine within yourself today to be "a good woman"--whether you are divorced or not...whether your husband left you or you left him...whether he had an affair or you did or neither one of you did--you can still be "a good woman."


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#759151 10/19/03 06:35 AM
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faithful

I noticed you are recovering from PTSD.

I am looking for anything and everything about PTSD I can read or join in order to help my wife deal with her abusive past.

Any suggestions?

#759152 10/21/03 10:59 PM
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stunned-dad-fast-recovering:

Whoa! What a name! Do you mind if I call you s-d-f-r? heehee <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Anyway, here are a few links for you:

http://www.mhsanctuary.com/ptsd/

http://www.ncptsd.org/facts/specific/fs_child_sexual_abuse.html

http://www.soulselfhelp.on.ca/sexabusemain.html

http://www.thedoctorwillseeyounow.com/articles/behavior/ptsd_4/

http://www.behavioralconsultants.com/Disorders/Post.htm

This should be enough to get you started. Also, here are a few books you could pick up from Amazon.com or a local bookstore:

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/listmania/list-browse/-/30YIZ990MQVC1/102-6648288-3173760

I highly recommend "The Betrayal Bond" by Patrick Carnes and "Adult Children of Abusive Parents".

By the way, it is very conceivable that your W may not want to deal with this. It hurt her a lot when she was young, and one way to "survive" is to bury it and pretend it didn't happen. Once you start to open this can of worms, it hurts all over again, and the tendency is to say, "Hey, I went to therapy to feel BETTER, not worse. I feel worse. I'm quitting!" You can help her to have the courage to keep going and keep remembering by being supportive, loving, VERY gentle, VERY understanding, and very aware that at times she may hurt so much inside herself that she's just one gigantic ball of raw irritation. Think of it as if she is a burn victim with no skin--because that is pretty much exactly how her hurt will feel. Yep, when you touch a burn victim, they yell at you because it hurts and they are sick of hurting!! Be gentle and very patient, and it will be worth the effort.


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I loved the post "A Good Woman" how true..

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I loved the post "A Good Woman" how true..


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