My husband for about the last 2 mo. has decided that once a week he is going out with work freinds to bars. He always gets drunk. I do not have a problem with him going out with friends, although I must admit it seems like he spends more time with the people he works with than me and our children. I do have a problem with bars and the atmospher there. I have expressed this to him. I do not believe him to be an alcoholic as he has gone years without touching or wanting it. He does come from a family with heavy alcoholic problems, however, he only got the work-a-holic side of it. Anyway, every week he calls before going out to ask "if I mind him going". I always tell him I am not comfortable with it, or that It would be nice to have him home, or I don't mind him going out but I wish he would not go to bars. I have gotten to the point that I no longer even answer the question just tell him he should do whatever he thinks best for him and us. Regardless of what he asks or what I say the story is always the same he goes out with work friends and gets drunk. I am angry, hurt, and frustrated. I have expressed my feelings he has ignored them and I just do not know how to cope. Help!