........that is what my former brother inlaw said my EX said about the married man she has been dating a year and a half. This guy serves on a ministry in my former church. I am so happy GOD approves of their relationship. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Wow, that guy is going to have some very tough questions to answer when judgement day comes around.

And in a year or two when the break up, it will be, "But I misunderstood what God was telling me".

I think it will be more like.........."Actually Satan was tellin me he was the one"...... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

This topic sort of struck a chord with me...although not anything to do with my xW.

I have noticed from a lot of stories on this site, incidents in real life, etc. that a lot of "religious" people are now using God as a justification for their actions that clearly contradict what the Bible teaches.

It seems very weak-minded to not be able to give the whole truth and continue to live in a state of hypocracy. Seriously, does God want you to be with him when there is one of the 10 commandments that specifically states that it is wrong?

Why have a belief system that you have no intent on following?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Wow, that guy is going to have some very tough questions to answer when judgement day comes around.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Edward, we are ALL going to have some "tough questions to answer when judment day comes around."

Does it not say, "There is NONE righteous, no NOT one?"

God does not look at SO's wife with any less love than He looks at SO, you, or me.

SO, I have read your posts before, and I think you still have bitterness towards your wife. I know it is not easy and truly cannot even imagine the anger/pain/hurt associated with a betrayal, but I think the only way you will be "free" from bitterness is to forgive her and forgive the man. No, it's not deserved, but NONE of us "deserves" to be forgiven by God or any person.

Yes, adultery is a very harmful, damaging, and devastating sin with severe consequences, but... we are still told to forgive. Easier said than done I know, and this coming from someone who has to constantly remind herself of these very words!

<small>[ October 24, 2003, 03:01 AM: Message edited by: LoveMyEx ]</small>

LMX,
You really confuse me. In the EN forum you were saying that you were no longer sure about your faith in God and now you are quoting scripture again. I'm not hounding you it just confuses me.

I have noticed from a lot of stories on this site, incidents in real life, etc. that a lot of "religious" people are now using God as a justification for their actions that clearly contradict what the Bible teaches.
Where does it say we can’t use God as justification for what we do?

Chris,

You have completely misunderstood my point...

Maybe it wasn't clearly spelled out, but what I have a problem with is when people say that "God wants this" like they are carrying out the Lord's work when they lie, cheat, and steal. It's not that they use God as justification for good works...it's that when they do something indefensible, they use God as a reason for what they are doing.

Your story reminds me of a call that came to Harley's radio show.

The guy had been having an A with a woman so he divorced his wife and mother of his four children 17 years ago and married his affair partner 10 years ago.

They felt God called them to a ministry. I can't remember to what but I think they might have met in AA, they were both recovering alcoholics, and so they worked together in substance abuse treatment.

Anyway, after 10 years of M to this second woman, the woman got in an affair -- with another woman!

Can you imagine how this guy feels?

<small>[ October 25, 2003, 10:28 PM: Message edited by: broken heart and arm ]</small>

I heard a counselor say once that she keeps a Bible on her desk. When one of her clients says they are not happy and want a divorce, she asks them to find the scripture that says this is a good reason for divorce. And then she sits there quietly until they find it. If they haven't found it by the end of the session. They are to hunt for it and bring it with them to the next session.

No one has found it, yet.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by cinderella:
<strong> I heard a counselor say once that she keeps a Bible on her desk. When one of her clients says they are not happy and want a divorce, she asks them to find the scripture that says this is a good reason for divorce. And then she sits there quietly until they find it. If they haven't found it by the end of the session. They are to hunt for it and bring it with them to the next session.

No one has found it, yet. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">How many of them have found other counselors?

Nope...

For me it was hearing "God doesn't want me to be unhappy!"

Leaving out the very real part... "so it doesn't really matter what I do that causes anyone else pain or trouble."

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by LoveMyEx:
<strong> [QUOTE]
SO, I have read your posts before, and I think you still have bitterness towards your wife. I know it is not easy and truly cannot even imagine the anger/pain/hurt associated with a betrayal, but I think the only way you will be "free" from bitterness is to forgive her and forgive the man. No, it's not deserved, but NONE of us "deserves" to be forgiven by God or any person.

</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Believe me when I say I am NOT bitter. Maybe you sense that through my typing somehow <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> but, I am not bitter with my EX. I see her and speak to her all the time. I think she does STUPID things thats all, Its not bitterness. Im remarried and totally concentrate on my wife period. I just hear things from time to time that my EX is doing, and it doesnt seem like they are talking about the woman I was married to. Bitter NO......disappointed in her decision making.....YES. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />