this is the second time that i feel that my h is having an affair since we have been married. my ic was going over my history and i remembered a third time when we were dating and he basically threw me out and acted this way. so now i am realizing that h must constantly like this affair stuff.

i can't seem to go on w/anything lately. i have asked him to move out, but he is dragging his feet on this and keeps wanting a connection w/me. i don't want him to really know how much this is hurting me w/having him here and i am having a difficult time holding down the LB's. i have prayed and was told to work on this but now my prayers are being answered w/the insight of my h's true character.

i have given up many things over the years to try and keep our marriage going, but know i feel i am giving up my self and i can't do that. i cannot be the needy, clinging person he wants. i have been totally committed to working on filling his needs, but i feel i am in competition and allowing him to use me. (and i have had a bad experience during childhood that is now being brought up every time my h touches me.)

i really want to get him out of my life right now. h does not even realize the pain and anger i feel every time i see him and it is eating me up by not showing him any lb's.

i don't know what to even do next.

Uofmfan,

We all get to a point of too much self sacrifice that needs to be put to a stop.

I knew I would keep falling into the same trap if I did not set boundaries and keep them.

You don't sound like you're happy at all and something needs to give somewhere.

Keep praying and listening, God will be faithful and show you the way.