My wife and I have been married for 3 months now. Last week got into a huge yelling argument over the lack of communication. plus, I have been ignoring her for past two months. I got so caught up with my other activities that i forgot about my wife. It ended up by me attacking her weak point. I regret it more each day. She says she cant trust me anymore or if im being honest with her. She hasnt slept at home the past 5 nights, she is staying at friends house. When she does come home, I am fighting for our marriage. But, she seems like she dont want any part of it. But, i know better. We havent touch each other for about a week and a half. On friday i came home from work alot earlier than i would normally do. As soon as i walk through the door she wanted to kiss me. But i didn't. Now im really an emotional mess right now. Ever since she has done that its really tore me up. She tells me the honesty and the trust is gone and that she cant be with me now.<BR>I have realized my faults, 90% of this is my fault. I want her back so bad. She tells me that she is moving out, is this the end of our realtionship. For the past week all she does is hang out with her friends at night clubs and then when she does come home , she tells how she is having so much fun with her friends. I have realized my mistakes and faults. Should I move on or wait. I want to fight for my marriage. I am so much in love with her that this is drowing me. I cant eat or sleep. So if anyone has any good advice let me know?

I'm no expert but I do feel your pain because I didn't eat or sleep for over a month. Everything I thought about was my marriage and what I did wrong for it to come to where it is today.<P>You said that your W doesn't trust you anymore. What did you do for her to lose trust in you?<P>I've been married almost 5 years (Sept 14) and my husband left July 24. I have been doing everything to work on our marriage and realize that I have to work on myself first before I can work on our marriage. Our problem was no communication and arguing. One day we got in a huge fight and he left 2 days later. We are going to counseling and he told the counselor that I stressed him out and that he likes his freedom right now. All my H does now is go out with the guys from work while I'm here at our house doing nothing but working on myself. He also said that he isn't sure if he wants to come back or not. I'm looking at the positive side of our marriage and he did say the other night that he wants to continue with counseling and will come back but not right now. I'm giving him the space and time he needs because when this all first happened, I was hounding him on when he was coming back and things just got worse, I actually pushed him away. Now that I am leaving him alone and not bothering him about coming back, he is being more responsive and wants to go out (something we have not done since he left).<P>I wouldn't give up on your marriage so quick. Suggest counseling to your wife and start working on yourself and the problems you have that contributed to the break up of your marriage. I know that since I have been working on my problems, I have become a better person through all of this. Even when my H came over on Friday because we were suppose to go out, when he told me that we couldn't go out, I just said "ok, that's fine, do what you have to do, there are always other nights to go out". If I was anything like I was before, I would have flipped out at him and said he doesn't care about me or our marriage. Being the way I was on Friday, showed him that I am changing my ways for the better.

Wow!!! I have a few questions. How long did you see eachother before getting married? Did you do any pre-marrital couseling? Have you read through the Basic Concepts on this web-site? Were you married in a church? <P>It is very hard to comment on someone's situation without having some background knowledge. If you have not done so yet, you need to digest the information on the Marriage Builders web site. Go to the top of this page and click on "Concepts." Don't just read the information. Digest it, do it!!! <P>I think you have come to the right place to find some help, but you will need to get busy right now at making your marriage a good one. Don't give up. Give it all you've got!