In my husband's defense, I have to say that he is making some effort by going to church with me every week, and I also suggest that we read from the Marriage Builder's website together. However, he won't make the time to do it and he is in DENIAL about us having any problems. He doesn't believe in working in a marriage; he always says if it aint broke, don't fix it. I don't like that school of thought, because something is bound to get "broke" with that attitude he has about me being "dramatic" or what not. However, he still doesn't understand why his fling with a 15 year-old upsets me, so if anyone has an answer to this inner conflict that I have about him, help, because my purpose is not to hurt him. I want to survive this; I'm especially upset today.<P>daphnescat

This is a tough situation, and I'm lost as far as any good advice. You may want to try posting your message in the emotional needs forum as that seems to be the most active. It does sound like you have a need for your husband to validate your feelings on this, and to prove to you that he believes what he did was wrong. Would it really help if he did convince you that he's disgusted by what he did? Also, did he know she was 15 at the time or did he think she was older? I'm glad he's going to church with you. He may just be in denial - trying to justify what he did because he feels guilty about it. That could have been part of the bragging - if his guy friends didn't act like he was a freak for what he did, it may have made him feel a little better (or more normal) for doing something he feels was wrong. I don't know... keep us posted.