StartinOver- Nah not beating a dead horse. Just getting all of my reasoning out he he. I was wondering if this was all fog talk on my end. I'll be addressing this issue tonight again with my counselor.

Adgirl- No problem, I don't mind tailgaters <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I wouldn't justify "dating" her by saying it's God's will. I'm praying that God's will shall prevail and not ours. Yeah, I can't deny the EA aspect of things. Guess it ends being an EA when the D is final?


We all have our views/opinions and as long as what I do is in line with God's word then what others say won't have much meaning. Guess that means I should always ready myself for the worst which we knowingly would accept if that was the answer. Nothing worse then swimming up stream without a paddle!

In case you didn't know, Ya'll are a fun bunch to figure things out with. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I find it absolutely amazing that most of you even consider dating so close to the actual divorce. Maybe I'm more emotionally drained than most, but after trusting one person so much the thought of getting into another relationship is frightening to say the least. I keep thinking of that old adage "on the rebound".

Am I alone in thinking this?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Always Hopeful:
<strong> I find it absolutely amazing that most of you even consider dating so close to the actual divorce. Maybe I'm more emotionally drained than most, but after trusting one person so much the thought of getting into another relationship is frightening to say the least. I keep thinking of that old adage "on the rebound".

Am I alone in thinking this? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I totally believe it all depends on whom you meet. My wife and I click and our lives have been going extremely well. We do not have a problem with trust, because we are both different people than our EXs and we got to know each other well before marriage. As I have said.....we were friends first.


Also.....Eduard....I dont think you are doing anything wrong. God Bless You. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Always Hopeful- Yeah, I think that rebound is always a fightnening thought, but then how would you ever date anyone after a relationship that didn't work? They'd all consequently be "rebounds".

For me, we've been separated going on 5 months. I think the relationship was deadening 7months before that.

Starting Over- Thanks, I'm trying my best.

I wouldn't classify every relationship after another to be a rebound...

To me, what it means is exiting a long-term relationship and immediately landing in another relationship. Something along the lines of being with one person for over a year, and then within one or two weeks having an exclusive significant other.

Everybody recovers at different speeds, but hopping from relationship to relationship is bad news.

Yeah. Being separated going on 5 months I don't think anything would be a rebound. Of course that's what I think. That's because I feel the relationship ended the moment the affair started and never recovered which was some time ago.

After much prayer and thought, going back and forth with posts here, talking to my counselor and knowing that God was speaking to me/us we agreed to take a few steps back and truly only be friends at this point in time.

There's a certain fine line between just friends and dating but not calling it dating that we were crossing. And it wasn't clear until God started revealing it through various little things. As much as I didn't want this to have to come about, it really is the best thing at this time.

We made it clear from the beginning that we didn't want to do anything inappropriate and that we'd just be friends. I think it makes things easier knowing you aren't compromising yourselves for something that you both agreed shouldn't be. And since we're both willing to wait and see how things are down the road, I have confidence that God's plan for me and his plan for her with what ever else may or may not happen will prevail and not our wills.

I was just thinking right now how there are certain doors that are still open that need to be closed properly before God can open a new one.

These post D relationships are hard.
After 2 dates, my date called it quits because he sensed I wasn't emotionally ready - and I acknowledge I wasn't.
It's still a sense of loss after meeting someone who is so emotionally healthy and available.

Is there a website for dating stresses?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by newly:
<strong> These post D relationships are hard.
After 2 dates, my date called it quits because he sensed I wasn't emotionally ready - and I acknowledge I wasn't.
It's still a sense of loss after meeting someone who is so emotionally healthy and available.

Is there a website for dating stresses? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My first couple of dates went this way.......it helped once I met someone who had gone through what I had. We were able to talk and bond.