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Help!!!!! That is all I can think of Help!!!!!!

I can't believe that someone actually asked me out. I was getting a little worried!!!!! Here I've lost the weight, changed the hair, changed the attitude. And my friends were getting the dates, not me!!!!!

Suggestions would be nice, we are going out on Saturday night. He asked what it is that I would like to do and I am not sure what it is you do on a date anymore!!!!!!

Help!!!!!

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Dawn,

So cool!

Just be yourself, he likes you already or he wouldn't have asked.

ENJOY, and you do the same things you do with your friends. Go to movies, go to dinner, maybe have sex (just kiddin!!!) just the typical stuff.

HAve fun!

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I'm thinking cool too!!! But then I go "Oh my gosh I have a date"!!!!

Haven't told my kids yet, they aren't home yet!!! But will tell them before the guy shows up!!!! Anxious to see what it is they have to say. My son said that mom dating would be icky!!!! He's 21!!!! What am I doing!!!!

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COOL!!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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dawn, wow! how exciting! I'm 52 and felt the same way when I started dating after almost as many years. Don't worry about your kids and their responses, they'll get used to it. Hope you have a great time. If nothing else, it's great to be asked!

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It was pretty great to be asked!!! Specially as I felt that I had been discarded so easily by someone that I loved and trusted.

Things are looking up and I am moving on!!!!! And that is the point, isn't it?

I am pretty excited, he seems to be a romantic type and it's been a long time since someone romanced me!!!! I always tried so hard and got nothing!

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daybreak,

He is probably just as nervous as you! Relax, smile, be wonderful yourself, and have a great night out!

You go girl!

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<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Have a GREAT time.

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The romantic type, huh? You go girl! I know that terrible feeling of being discarded so easily by someone that I loved and trusted, but getting attention from another man, and without even trying (yes, I know that feeling of trying so hard and getting nothing, too), really helped me realize that our WS's decisions were more about them than they were about us!

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Congratz on landing a date!

Not to burst your bubble, but make sure to take things slow. It sounds like you may have been slightly starved for the proper attention from a male so just be aware.

Have fun! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Oh I know to go slow, I have some boundaries set already. And yes I was starved for male attention, the last 2 years of our marriage, we were no more then roomates, found out though about the EA and know that that is why!!! So have dealt with that it wasn't me but him!

Thanks for the warning all the same!!!
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Good for you!

Do what I do...when you get nervous, smile. I did that when visiting my new church.

You're gonna have fun. It's just a friend. Remember that. he's a friend. You must like him for who he is or you'd not go out with him. So relax, you're just going to spend some time with a friend. And he's a friend with potential.

That's what my sister told me..To when I heal enough to date, realize that they are just friends and to pick the ones to date that are just that...Friends. And in the back of your mind remember the potential.

Breathe, smile. You'll be fine.

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Is this the guy at church?

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How fun Dawn,

Have a great time....you will be amazed how nice people can be again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Even if it doesn't go anywhere...it is still nice to be with someone who pays attention...

Good for you...Pat

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Hey!!!! alway's remember that you need to have some fun. bring back you'r life again. and dont be afraid to bring back you'r trust to other's. sometime's we fall, but we must learn to stand again. cheer up!!!

ola morena
Marriage 3 time's and im still alive and still keep fall in love again and again. as long someone who love's me and i know how to show love also.

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I thought you pick it up from Palm trees ... silly me ... LOL ! You have to report back though. -rh-

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I always tried so hard and got nothing! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Repeat after me: That was then, this is now!

Be yourself and enjoy your date! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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Now remeber you have to report back...... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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Oh man this is so scary!!!!!!

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by daybreak:
<strong> Oh man this is so scary!!!!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Dawn, As I'm painting today, I'm thinking, "wonder how Dawn's date went?" So here I am taking a break from paint to ask, "How'd your date go?" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Any excuse to take a break. tehe!

Anna

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