So, the time finally came where I told my WW that I wanted to go ahead and file for D. I've been contemplating this for quite some time and finally feel the timing is right to do so. She was pretty agreeable and to the point where I know she had thought it out fairly well.

She moved last month back to CA and I live in GA. We originally came from CA 1 1/2 yrs ago to live here. Now that she is back there, I know there is a 6month residency status waiting period, but it seemed to me like she might have a work around for that since we still have a house back there and she still has her CA Drivers license. She also mentioned using "someone" who I believe is a family friend of hers to do all of the paperwork for us for Free. She really seemed set on trying to convince me to do this which of course I'm not going to do.

My fear is that she somehow may have a work around to file there and thus throw the D to her side of the world. Should I wait to file until we have a good agreement in place? She seemed to not be set on what to do with the house (whether to sell or buy me out) Any thoughts?

IF she lived in GA for six months or more (went thru this myself) then filing must be in GA.

GA is a fault state and that's good...unless you're dealing like I did with somebody hiding assets and fixing false financial statements, etc..

But if this is a rather easy (not emotionally, just in the sense of division of assets)then you may want to just file first, cite your reason for filing on the papers (adultery and abandonment) and then proceed. That's what I did.

I know it's tough for you to admit this. There comes a time when we have to do it Eduard. But we're here for you. Vent and get frustrated. It's ok.

Find an attorney. Get the papers filed asap. If she knows you are filing, she may try to beat you to it. I believe it is most beneficial to do it first.

You did all you could do. It's ok. We're praying for you ok?

Do that now. File and cite the reasons and let her deal with seeing the words showing why you are filing...adultery and abandonment.

Wish I could have done it quietly and neatly, trust me. God is with you and will not leave you. This is the beginning of you healing now and it will take quite a bit of time, but that's good. Take this time and work on you. Make new friends and work on you.

Hey JP my Alpharetta bud,

Although I'm not sure if I should elect to put down faults other then the normal "irreconcilable differences".

I don't know if it matters or not and I wouldn't want to hold up the process if she decides to fight that wording.

Thanks for the kind words and good info.