I just wanted to say hi to everybody. I'm a stander too even if I don't admitt it sometimes. It's been a year since my husband left. I'm a stander not by choice, but when God wants you to do something you better do it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> . I've tried to give up numerous times, but God won't let me. Therefore I am going with the flow and letting God handle it.

Anyway, I just wanted to say hi.
Lunadove

<small>[ June 15, 2004, 02:08 AM: Message edited by: LoveMyEx ]</small>

LoveMyEx , that makes perfect sense to me. Thanks for sharing. You are so right in saying that this is a walk of faith that we face mostly alone. But thank God we have Him!

I know that everything that happens in life is for a reason. It's taken my husband leaving me and filing for divorce for me to really see all the problems in our marriage. I truly thought we had the perfect marriage. People were even jealous of us. We are both young, have no children and were always out camping and stuff. BUT, we failed to put God in the center of lives. I truly believe that this was God's way of getting us back on track. Of course, it has been a tougher battle with my H but I KNOW God is working in his heart. I Praise God for that! I am so at peace in my life right now and so content with the relationship I have with God now. I don't know if I would have ever gotten so close to Him if my H hadn't left me. In a way, I thank God for my H leaving me. It may sound weird but I'm sure many will understand.

The Rejoice Ministries emails have gotten me thru ALOT of days as well. God bless Charlyne and Bob for everything they do for others. They sure will have a beautiful home in Heaven. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

LunaDove , nice to see you here. Glad to know you are reading here and standing. God really doesn't want you to give up, so keep at it. I know it's hard some times but keep praying. God hasn't given up on your husband.

God bless you all who read here and are standing with Him for the restoration of your marriages!!!

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<small>[ June 15, 2004, 02:10 AM: Message edited by: LoveMyEx ]</small>

Im still here lurking. Been posting on Trusting Him's site as well. WOW! It is just such a blessing to see so many standing for their marriages. The one thing I have learned is that love is a CHOICE, not a feeling, not romance. A CHOICE. It absolutely amazes me at times how often I was guilty of picking and choosing which of Gods instructions/commands I would or wouldnt obey. God commands us as Christians to stand and remain faithful. Its like we try and fit God into our little "life box". He's not a little leprechaun running around perforoming for us. He is the God of the universe - creator of EVERYTHING. It boils down to obedience, plain and simple.

I am glad to be here with your guys!

Have a merry christmas

Healedwounds

<small>[ June 15, 2004, 02:10 AM: Message edited by: LoveMyEx ]</small>

I'm sorry.
I don't get it.

What are you "Standing" for?

Some of these posts are concerning.

My X is sick.
I was lucky to get away from him when I did.

Do y'all think God wanted me to stay with a man who beat me?
Do y'all think God doesn't always tell us what we want to hear?

For a long time I thought I was doing what God wanted me to do.
I prayed and prayed for God to repair my marriage and help heal my X.

I didn't realize it was my fear keeping me there.
I didn't realize God was telling, no, screaming at me to leave.
When I did, I realized God wanted me to learn something.
He wanted me to learn to trust him and let Him take my hand and guide me through the fear.

Now everything in my life is falling into place.
I hear Him so clearly.

So, will someone please explain this thread to me?
Have any of you watched Joyce Meyer?

For the man who is still wearing his ring even though his X is remarried, you scare me.
Sorry, but you do.

So tell me.
Inform me.
Educate me.
Please, make me understand.


Aly

I am a stander. The Bible does say that a woman can separate from her husband but cannot remarry. That is the path I am on.

Broken windshield, bashed in head, chokings, openly showing more interest in another woman,... The Lord does not ask us to suffer that. Forgive it, yes. Tolerate it, no.

<small>[ December 24, 2003, 07:37 PM: Message edited by: broken heart and arm ]</small>

I am a stander too. I walk the same path.

I Cor 7 10-11 But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife.

Although the walk is hard and the path is narrow I know God is in control.

Just bringing this back to life.

Hope you all have a good New Year!!

I'm still standing in Kansas! Judge in Missouri will hear my appeal for a legal separation in Feb./March. Time is on my side and I still love my W! God bless all you standers!

I am trying to stand for marriage right now. I have heard a few people say that God showed me I was to stand for my marriage. Could someone please tell me how God showed them. I have asked God to show me if I am to stand for my marriage, but I dont seem to have the answer.

Cheryl

<small>[ June 15, 2004, 02:12 AM: Message edited by: LoveMyEx ]</small>

Hi All:

As my name implies, I am a Stander. I just choose to do it in a frozen wasteland. Well, to fair, Helsinki`s weather is quite moderate thanks to the influence of the trans-Atlantic Gulf Stream, but that`s another topic...

Don`t understand the conflict over whether this Thread is appropriately located or not? What difference does it make? We are here to help one another. Right?!

I believe in getting and considering everyone`s opinion. The main reason for my Stand at least is that I LOVE MY WIFE. That is all I know. Regardless of what the Bible, Koran, or Encyclopedia Britannica says, I know what I feel and I know it is right.

I am aware of the Christian based support sites out there and they have been very comforting to me at times. I do believe and follow many of their principles. However, I am, at this time, more interested in references to psychology based research as to why reconciliation is, long term, preferable to divorce. What do the statistics say about divorce? How do divorced people fare long term? How about the children of divorce? One of the best books I have read during my marriage crisis has been "The Case Against Divorce" by Dianne Medved written back in the late 80s/early 90s Would anyone know what she is up to and whether she has updated her research?

We can argue all day about what is morally right or wrong, but what are the facts? Are there enough facts out there to gather any meaningful interpretations? Is it better to quit or sit? (standing gets tiring so sometimes I sit too!)


Standing in Finland

Hi All!

Just wanted to share this email I got from E-Mail Ministries today. Enjoy!


LISTEN TO ME


Effective immediately, please be aware that here
are changes YOU need to make in YOUR life. These changes need to be completed in order that I may fulfill My promises to you to grant you peace, joy and happiness in this life. I apologize for any inconvenience, but after all that I am oing, this seems very little to ask of you. I know, I already gave you the 10 Commandments. Keep them. But follow these guidelines, also:

1. QUIT WORRYING
Life has dealt you a blow and all you do is sit
and worry. Have you forgotten that I am here to take all your burdens and carry them for you? Or do you just enjoy fretting over every little thing that comes your way?

2. PUT IT ON THE LIST
Something needs to be done or taken care of. Put
it on the list. No, not YOUR list. Put it on MY to-do-list. Let ME be the one to take care of
the problem. I can't help you until you turn it
over to Me. And although My to-do-list is long, I am after all... God. I can take care of
anything you put into My hands. In fact, if the
truth were ever really known, I take care of a lot of things for you that you never even realize.

3. TRUST ME
Once you've given your burdens to Me, quit trying to take them back. Trust in Me. Have the faith that I will take care of all your needs.
YOUR problems and your trials. Problems with the
kids? Put them on My list. Problem with inances? Put it on My list. Problems with your emotional roller coaster? For My sake, put it on My list. I want to help you. All you have to do is ask.

4. LEAVE IT ALONE
Don't wake up one morning and say, "Well, I'm
feeling much stronger now, I think I can handle it from here." Why do you think you are feeling
stronger now? It's simple. You gave Me your
burdens and I'm taking care of them. I also renew your strength and cover you in my peace. Don't you know that if I give you these problems back, you will be right back where you started? Leave them with Me and forget about them. Just let Me do my job.

5. TALK TO ME
I want you to forget a lot of things. Forget what was making you crazy. Forget the worry and the fretting because you know I'm in control. But there's one thing I pray you never forget.
Please, don't forget to talk to Me - OFTEN! I love YOU! I want to hear your voice. I want you to include Me in on the things going on in your
life. I want to hear you talk about your friends and family. Prayer is simply you having a
conversation with Me. I want to be your dearest
friend.

6. HAVE FAITH
I see a lot of things from up here that you can't see from where you are. Have faith in Me that I know what I'm doing. Trust Me; you wouldn't want the view from My eyes. I will continue to care for you, watch over you, and meet your needs. You only have to trust Me. Although I have a much bigger task than you, it seems as if you have so much trouble just
doing your simple part. How hard can trust be?

7. SHARE
You were taught to share when you were only two
years old. When did you forget? That rule still applies. Share with those who are less fortunate
than you. Share your joy with those who need
encouragement. Share your laughter with those who haven't heard any in such a long time. Share
your tears with those who have forgotten how to
cry. Share your faith with those who have none.

8. BE PATIENT
I managed to fix it so in just one lifetime you
could have so many diverse experiences. You grow from a child to an adult, have children, change jobs many times, learn many trades, travel to so many places, meet thousands of people, and experience so much. How can you be so impatient then when it takes Me a little longer than you expect to handle something on My to-do-list? Trust in My timing, for My timing is perfect. Just because I created the entire universe in only six days, everyone thinks I should always rush, rush, rush.

9. BE KIND
Be kind to others, for I love them just as much
as I love you. They may not dress like you, or talk like you, or live the same way you do, but I still love you all. Please try to get along, for My sake. I created each of you different in some way. It would be too boring if you were all
identical. Please, know I love each of your
differences.

10. LOVE YOURSELF
As much as I love you, how can you not love
yourself? You were created by me for one reason only -- to be loved, and to love in return. I am a God of Love. Love Me. Love your neighbors. But
also love yourself. It makes My heart ache when I see you so angry with yourself when things go
wrong. You are very precious to Me. Don't ever
forget that! With all my heart, I love YOU!

GOD

Hi all,
I figured the best place to get advice that is pro-marriage is here, amongst standers. My H is stationed in Iraq and has announced to me via e-mail that he is in a new relationship. The first ow left him. I wrestling with the decision of filing for divorce or not. I love my husband and want to stay married. I am scared right now. Please help. Any input would be appreciated.
Lunadove