I don't know what to do about my wife. She's always been one to wear her emotions on the outside but at the same time try to tell you nothing is wrong. Recently, however, (its been building up for 7 or 8 months) she has taken it to a new extreme. For starters, she hates her job but won't do anything about it. She just wants to complain about the same things over and over, day after day. I tried just listening but after weeks of hearing the same complaints over and over and seeing no action at all, I finally told her she had to do something about it. Needless to say I incurred her wrath for trying to solve her problem. Now she doesn't even like to talk to me about it. She claims she hates where we live now, but her life is almost exactly the way it was before we moved. She just sits on the couch watching TV. I have to practically drag her out of the house to do something fun and then she complains that we never do anything. Intimacy is non-existent. I have heard every excuse in the book, some of them so cliché you wouldn't believe it. It's come to the point where I've just stopped trying because it’s too frustrating. She barely even says hello when she comes home, and half the time I have to fight to get a kiss hello or good bye or a simple I love you. Sometimes I think she doesn’t really even want to be nice to me. The list goes on and on too!<BR> Basically she is becoming a miserable person in every aspect of our life. Everything is misery to her. She's miserable when she leaves in the morning and when she comes home. This miserable attitude affects everything, including our marriage. I feel like all I do is irritate her. I get in trouble for asking simple questions because "I should know the answer", and for asking how she’s doing or how her day was. Sometimes I just get a grunt in response. I explain it as though she's got me walking on crystal, afraid that at the slightest step I'm going to break through. I never know what I'm going to do or say that is going to set her off into an irate display of hostility and anger. For example, if she asks me a question and I go beyond the scope of the question in answering I get told that I should only answer the question she asked and nothing more. Of course I say I'm just throwing out ideas or, god forbid trying to make conversation, but that just gets me in trouble and then she gets mad and we fight because I’m not going to take that crap. I guess she's fighting this anger by being controlling, but she seems to have all these unreasonable expectations of me now. All these rules that make sense to her but don't apply to the rest of the world, for instance, she wants me to only answer the question asked, sometimes with a yes or no answer like in court. I have the right to stimulate a discussion and have a conversation with my wife. I know I'm the type of person who always has an opinion, but she knew this when we were dating and now we’ve been married 5 years and she suddenly has a problem with it? I have absolutely no idea what to do. I feel like I've tried being patient, or supportive, or loving and light hearted, and nothing has even the slightest effect. In fact being loving and light hearted had the opposite effect and I was told I wasn't giving her enough space. So now I've pulled away a bit and it’s been weeks and nothing has changed. I am one frustrated dude who loves his wife and just wants us and her to be happy. What should I do?<BR>
